What would you do?

Do what you want, I would let your take you, and then come home on the train. Do not let your husband dictate to you. You're not going, good grief I would make sure I went, like you said, how dare he.

I can easily understand why anyone, my husband included, would prefer their own home to going away to an empty home with wife and dog.

Oh my - the thought to two weeks boredom of such a venture would make anyone spit out their dummy and throw toys out of pram.

Your daughter is asking too much, imo, and should at the very least accomplish your transportation - make life easier for you.

I’m assuming you don’t drive, narrowboatnan, so I agree with your husband that DD or her other half should bring you home - you are doing them a big favour and it’s the least they can do. Your DH is doing his bit by getting you there.

However, he really has no business telling you what to do, and you need to make that clear. Whatever you decide to do, make sure he knows that!

Don't catch the train home with luggage and a puppy. That really is a very bad idea. Your daughter should bring you home as you have done her a big favour. Assuming she's young and fit (and just returned from a relaxing holiday) I don't think it's much hardship to drive you the following day. I wouldn't have dreamt of letting my mum struggle on the train and I wouldn't have entertained all this palaver.

It seems you had a plan and Dh is changing it up and that wouldn’t sit well with me. So I wouldn’t be going back on what I agreed to and asking dd for a ride back. I’d tell Dh he could take me and pick me. Up or id need to be taking the car myself for the fortnight and I’d see him upon my return.

Can you not drive yourself?

I think its right that its going to be a struggle by train and he doesn't have to come and get you BUT its not up to him to lay the law down.

My biggest problem would be my husband telling me what I could or couldn't do. He's my partner not my boss! Did not so DH say that he was going to go with you and has now changed his mind? If so, it might be worth reminding him gently that he has changed the plans so you would prefer not to put more strain on your daughter. That said, if he is prepared to take you, it wouldn't be unreasonable for another member of the family to bring you back.

Well, purely and simply to teach DH that I’m not under his control I’d be sorely tempted to take a taxi. (OK, and a 2nd mortgage!). Good luck

Not everyone drives

Not everyone drives. I don't for one

The answer is obvious. Kennels

1, keep on with the wax dolly.
If you can drive, take the car - much easier for you when there if you have transport so you can go shopping, visit your son etc.
If not, then see if your son could give you a lift home, but failing all else, the train would be OK, depending on your health and agility, and the dog's behaviour / if it would worry on the train.
Ignore the black mirror.....

How about a compromise? A meeting point roughly half way (pub meal with DD or other family - one lot there, one back perhaps?)
Hubby still only doing same mileage, couple of nice meals with family, win win!
(NB. Make sure the pub/restaurant is dog friendly!)
Alternatively just meet halfway and swap without the meal (easy to meet up anywhere these days with a google maps pin!

If this were me I would leave my dog behind with the husband and go to my daughters on the train and back on the train a day after the family get back so you can hear all about their lovely holiday straight away. I value being independent and don’t like asking for help so wouldn’t even consider expecting to be taken and collected even though you are doing your family a favour. If you are able I don’t know why you are expecting to have lifts.

Assert your independence ……hire an Uber to bring you back home and charge it your husband’s credit card!

Dcba I love that idea. 🤣🤣🤣

If you drive , could you not drive there and back ? That gives you some freedom when you’re there .
Otherwise could you dh and dd meet halfway on both journeys ? You could have lunch or a coffee . You’re doing your dd and her family a favour after all .
We do this when my mum goes to my sister. Who’s a 2 hour drive away . Also with my goddaughter who’s a 4 hour drive .
I would certainly object to my husband telling me what to do .

I would leave the puppy behind and get a train both ways. If your husband can't be co-operative and help both you and your daughter then make him at least take responsibility for the dog..

* ....... then you’re not going!*

Ahem ...... is he your boss? Are you a child?

You can do what you like!

How very dare he indeed. Certainly he is throwing his dummy out of the pram in his great big trantrum. There is lots of very good advice for you here. Have you done this train journey before. Is the dog used to train journeys. If not I would consider alternative arrangements for it. And I would have already booked my seat on the train by now. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you. But don't be bullied into changing your plans.

Can someone eg. your daughter take you to the station and your husband pick you up at the other end? or get a taxi.

A few choices!
1. Cant you drive yourself there?
2. Taxi to take you home? Perhaps your son/ daughter could pay half.
3. Ask your son to take you home. It would be nice for his dad to see him.
4. You have offered to go and do this. Your husband has offered to take you. I think he is generous to do that. It’s up to you to sort your return journey if you go.
5. If you go return on the train with puppy. Just take a cross body bag and a back pack. Re el light.
6. You don’t have to tell your husband how you are getting back. Say your daughter will you home and then if you feel up to it just get the train back! Not a lot he can do about that because you’ll already be there!

You can sort this! Go girl!

I'd missed the part where the arrangements had been made but your husband has now changed his mind.

He's being unfair to everyone in my opinion.
He's the one who's causing the complications and he should be the one sorting it out, ie collecting you himself.

You take the car so you can use it while you’re away. Or you incorporate a mini break on your way home to break your journey up using trains/taxis. Your life, your body, your choice.