What did I do wrong?

Ohmother - I had a similar issue, not so long ago. I was invited to my youngest son’s house and because I wanted to have a drink, I asked my 21 year old grandson to drop me off. Ofcourse, he just came in. He wanted to see his little cousins. So, they were forced to ask him to stay for dinner. The next day my son rang me and told me off. I now know I was wrong. I could have taken a taxi. My house is open house, so I think everyone else’s house is ‘open’ too. I certainly overstepped the mark.

Ohmother

OK all. I have already organised a trip for the 5 year old in the new year. I have apologised to my son. Thanks for your input. Xxx. Happy New Year all.

Don’t feel guilty about it, you asked and he showed you that it wasn’t what he wanted.Nothing wrong with you asking.
Enjoy the trip anyway😃

crazyH

Ohmother - I had a similar issue, not so long ago. I was invited to my youngest son’s house and because I wanted to have a drink, I asked my 21 year old grandson to drop me off. Ofcourse, he just came in. He wanted to see his little cousins. So, they were forced to ask him to stay for dinner. The next day my son rang me and told me off. I now know I was wrong. I could have taken a taxi. My house is open house, so I think everyone else’s house is ‘open’ too. I certainly overstepped the mark.

I think your grandson is the one who inadvertently over-stepped the mark, not you, crazyH. You asked him to "drop you off". That's not what he did.

I also think your youngest son over-stepped the mark of hospitality by complaining to you about his nephew.

Glad you've got it sorted. Your son was paying for you (and everyone else) to have a relaxing break and a 5 year old in tow would be far from conducive to that. He also didn't see why he should pay for his brother to have a break from his own child. Not everyone is thrilled to have little children tagging along and it would've completely changed every aspect of the holiday. Sorry but I would've been pretty put out if my mum had asked the same question.