What shall I do?

"None of us want to meet her"

You sound a right terrifying lot.

woodenspoon

Normally I wouldn’t ask this online but I’d like some advice from others as to what to do in this situation. Last year my dear cousin died just before Christmas after an illness. Two weeks after the funeral her DH put their home on the market to catch the Christmas buyers he said. We all thought it was a bit quick but not our business really. She asked me to keep in touch with him, not lose touch etc. we had an email last week saying he was coming down for a visit and wanted to meet up. No problem with that but he is ‘bringing his new lady’. What can we do? None of us wants to meet her, we feel it’s far too soon but don’t know how we can get out of it. My brother said maybe we should but I don’t feel at ease with it.
Any ideas grans?

I cannot believe this thread how many judgemental Grans. I hope they will be very happy in their new relationship and hopefully will keep away from these very unwelcoming family and friends

People asked that I’d get back to them after our meeting to report how it went.

First of all, some criticisms on here from posters are unfair. Many of you have suddenly lost a loved one and to see that loved one replaced quickly is a shock. If that offends some on here so be it.
we are not an unwelcoming family either as some have accused us of, nor are we terrifying. Ridiculous comment.

So, we met at the hotel for afternoon tea. Yes, it was awkward at first inevitably but we all got along. They are a well established couple having been on two cruises together apparently in the last six months. Now, he has sold the family home and they’re living together. People asked his age, he is 77. She is 60. His children have accepted it but my late cousins have found it difficult unsurprisingly.

So that is my update. We have agreed to stay in touch and wished them well.

Well done woodenspoon.

If you don't want to meet her..remember that's your choice and you simply don't have to

But stop and think. What would your cousin want you to do. Then decide what to do

This new lady might be nice. And as your cousin has left this world no one would wsish for anyone to be aline

You did the right thing.

Life goes on, even if we want to have loved ones back with us we have to learn to live without them.

Good news woodenspoon.
People in your situation may well find it difficult but well done for making the best of it.

I'm glad it was OK woodenspoon you'll be keeping in touch.