Wedding Gift

I suppose it’s down to how ‘close’ you are to the couple? What would you spend on a gift - £50, £100 more? Might you know someone in the same position to discuss it?

Difficult to answer when not aware of your budget

My go to wedding gift if not purchasing a physical present is a voucher from John Lewis.

If the couple have been living together and therefore have a home I get them an overnight spa hotel voucher, with dinner and a treatment each, to get over the stress of a wedding.

Sorry - just seen you said close family.

They would prefer cash. I'm seeing anythingfrom £100 to £500 on line. So I'm thinking somewhere in the middle?

That is a substantial and generous gift

GrannyGravy13 that last reply was for you

I find that wedding gifts are getting more and more generous and frankly more than I have expected in the past.
I haven’t been to a wedding for years but am invited to one in February.
The bride is a friend of my GD who is a bridesmaid.
The couple are both 30 with a young child, both owned their own flats when they got together and both in very good and high paying jobs, so it is a very grand affair.
I have very mixed feelings about the value of my gift.
Not asking for input just think others may feel as I do about the matter.
We are staying over at an expensive hotel the night of the wedding which further adds to cost.
I think back to the simple weddings of myself and our contemporaries costing peanuts really but as the saying goes “ the past is a foreign country”
First world problem and not helping the OP.

PurpleLove

They would prefer cash. I'm seeing anythingfrom £100 to £500 on line. So I'm thinking somewhere in the middle?

I am of the opinion if you can afford to, spend it/do it. Your generosity will hopefully be appreciated and remembered.

There are no pockets in a shroud

Usedtobeblonde it's a mine field! What happened to the days when you could get them a toaster or iron!? We're going to another wedding where I'll give £100. I think that's the going rate these days

GrannyGravy13 yes, I think you're right

I hate the newish trend of using cash for holidays but have had to suck it up.
I'd rather give a John Lewis (say) voucher if they already have everything (they could quietly spend that on shopping) - I know this is irrational!

I gave £200 recently in cash but it felt too much. It was from all my family though to the son of a really close friend. As we are a larger family, any less seemed not enough. 🤷

If it's just from you (or from you and your husband) I think £100 is fine.
They already have everything they need after all.

I agree it's a modern day issue?

My Niece is getting married next year. I will probably give her a gift card for JL for around £250, or travel vouchers.
She already has a house, baby and runs her own very successfully business. It's a tricky one!

I wouldn't give cash- if the couple have all they want to set up home then they are just being greedy.

Luckily in my family no one gets married anymore.

I think, unless your son or daughter, £100 is absolutely fine.

Usedtobeblonde

I find that wedding gifts are getting more and more generous and frankly more than I have expected in the past.
I haven’t been to a wedding for years but am invited to one in February.
The bride is a friend of my GD who is a bridesmaid.
The couple are both 30 with a young child, both owned their own flats when they got together and both in very good and high paying jobs, so it is a very grand affair.
I have very mixed feelings about the value of my gift.
Not asking for input just think others may feel as I do about the matter.
We are staying over at an expensive hotel the night of the wedding which further adds to cost.
I think back to the simple weddings of myself and our contemporaries costing peanuts really but as the saying goes “ the past is a foreign country”
First world problem and not helping the OP.

I really do appreciate your post, Usedtobeblonde as I think in exactly the same way. Is the bride the sort of person who would appreciate something 'antique'? Or, is she terribly modern? I would probably aim for £150 to £200 depending on my pension. If you have not been to a wedding for a long time, you could make an occasion out of it yourself and enjoy the features of the hotel too and perhaps visit some nearby attraction. My daughter had 20 at her wedding and we did it for £1500 all in. My dad paid for it out of his pension as I was not working and was my parents' full time carer so had no income to give. It is what suits you personally.

keepingquiet, they would like cash for their honeymoon but they haven't requested it.

Thanks everyone. Really helpful and much appreciated 😊

The last wedding I attended was 5 years ago in Ireland. My cousin’s son. The going rate then for an Irish wedding was £250. I simply couldn’t afford it in addition to travel and accommodation costs. I popped £100 in the card. They’re probably still talking about me. 😆

PurpleLove

*keepingquiet*, they would like cash for their honeymoon but they haven't requested it.

Honeymoon? If they have set up house together therefore no need for practical gifts then it isn't a honeymoon it's a holiday, sorry.

I think for the son of a cousin, unless you were very close, that was pretty generous.

I'm astonished by this thread.
Perhaps I've just not kept up with the time.

The last wedding in the family we were told to 'hold the date', then came the pandemic so it was postponed. By the time the wedding was organised we didn't get an invite. 🤔

£100 is a good amount- £150 if you would like to send more - that is quite enough.

PurpleLove

They would prefer cash. I'm seeing anythingfrom £100 to £500 on line. So I'm thinking somewhere in the middle?

Perhaps £200 would be appreciated.

Give what you can afford,don't be pressured..money mad world these days