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Calendargirl Wed 24-Dec-25 10:58:03

I do wish she wouldn’t

If she’s been doing it for 30 odd years though, I think even I would have a box of chocs or biscuits ready to hand over, however pointless it seems.

RosieandherMaw Wed 24-Dec-25 09:05:25

How kind of her!
As she’s been doing it for so many years how hard would it be to have a small box of truffles or a pot plant ready for her?

Sadgrandma Wed 24-Dec-25 07:51:34

We have a neighbour who delivers a present to every family in our small close on Christmas Eve. This has been going on for the thirty odd years that we have lived here. I do wish she wouldn’t. Every year, at the last minute I suddenly remember that I haven’t bought her anything, so last minute panic!

Calendargirl Tue 23-Dec-25 21:33:14

Christmas is about giving

But in certain cases, it ends up as ‘tit for tat’ giving’.

This example being a case in point, the OP said ‘Why do people do this?’, meaning that she felt obliged to buy a gift.

But if that’s what others choose to do, fine.

To me, rather pointless though.

Esmay Tue 23-Dec-25 14:59:33

I try to keep supplies in just in case someone buys me an unexpected gift .
I used to make jewellery and collect costume jewellery so if the gift giver is a lady it's no problem for me .

RosieandherMaw Tue 23-Dec-25 13:44:59

Calendargirl

^The neighbour of a friend who you have only met a couple of times^

I really don’t think I would have given her anything.

So do you then get a box of chocolates or biscuits for her next year, in case…..?

And so the present giving churns on…

And what is wrong with that?
Christmas is about giving

Lathyrus3 Tue 23-Dec-25 13:41:03

And I’ve.

No idea who Sandy is, but she can have some fudge too……….

Lathyrus3 Tue 23-Dec-25 13:39:57

Depends what the unexpected present is really.

Ve just made some Xmas fudge. I’ll take a few pieces round with the neighbours Christmas card this afternoon. No ulterior motive, showing off or feeling superior. Just fudge because I fancied making it.

A pot of homemade jam, a festive bookmark from a friend with a new sewing machine, a few snowdrops in a flower pot. These are a few unexpected gifts I’ve received. Sandy ve taken them in the same spirit as my fudge😬

Calendargirl Tue 23-Dec-25 13:17:10

The neighbour of a friend who you have only met a couple of times

I really don’t think I would have given her anything.

So do you then get a box of chocolates or biscuits for her next year, in case…..?

And so the present giving churns on…

RosieandherMaw Tue 23-Dec-25 12:57:39

grandMattie

Plenty.
I suspect it’s a form of showing off, possibly wanting more presents themselves or genuine kindness.
Sorry to be such a cynic

I’d go with the kindness motivation, not the “showing off” one or wanting more presents themselves, @GrandMattie

Magenta8 Tue 23-Dec-25 12:53:16

When I was still working, we used to do a Secret Santa at Christmas and it was agreed that we would spend no more than £5.00.

We used to draw the names at random beforehand so we knew who we were buying for in advance.

One year I received a Bodyshop selection which must have cost at least £15.00 and it made me feel bad as I had bought a keyring costing £4.99 as my contribution.

grandMattie Tue 23-Dec-25 12:40:17

Plenty.
I suspect it’s a form of showing off, possibly wanting more presents themselves or genuine kindness.
Sorry to be such a cynic

kircubbin2000 Tue 23-Dec-25 12:34:23

I've just heard that a friend is dropping off gifts this morning and has one for me from her neighbour who I have only met a couple of times. I have wrapped up some shortbread and a nice jam to send her. Is that enough?

Why do people do this?