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Sueinkent Thu 25-Dec-25 21:51:37

I have two GC of 16 and 13, each of whom I gave £50 for xmas. I have heard noword of thanks from either of them even though I have seen them today. They used to be very polite and always did the right thing in this respect but lately they don’t acknowledge any gifts. It is the same for their birthdays. I don’twant them to grovel and I understand how young people get distracted by busy goings on with their mates etc but when I was young my parents made sure I showed respect and appreciation for things like gifts. Am I being a grouch?

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Cossy Mon 12-Jan-26 10:42:22

Harris27

Same here gave four £50; and tubs of sweets and small gifts each not a word. Hubby just says it’s the way they are but it’s hurtful.

It’s hurtful and extremely rude!

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welbeck Mon 12-Jan-26 13:39:31

Don't give so much.
Esp to over 18s.
Do they give you presents ?
Thought not.
Are you trying to buy their love or attention?
It's not working.
Look after yourself.

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Carenza123 Fri 16-Jan-26 07:18:58

I think when Grandchildren are older, and probably earning their own money - if you get no thanks, then time to call it a day. I usually give my two grandchildren money (seems the norm these days) but if they can’t even send a quick text, I would seriously consider whether they value your gift. Stop sending money and in your Christmas cards to them - say you have donated to a charity of your choice. We don’t buy gifts for the adults in our family - just for the teenagers. This Christmas I was surprised to receive a gift (totally unexpected) between the two of them. They had saved their money earnt from their part time jobs but wanted to give me a gift. This meant a lot to me - not the gift but the thoughts behind giving.

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