Facebook Post

Do you think it’s true? That would be my first thought.

Are you concerned about your mums driving?

The photo is of her car - parked where? At a shopping centre?

She "recently returned to driving" - could she have driven it?

What does the "with your wife" mean?

What a nightmare social media is sometimes. Often, actually!

I doubt very much there is any point in contacting Facebook.

I think perhaps your DM did make an error in her driving, however, I can only suggest a couple of things, be open with your Mum and ask her if she recalls any “incidents” on the road recently and if you’re able to, contact the person who posted this on social media, explain who you are and ask for a full detailed explanation of what happened and ask her to please remove the post.

Do you know someone who is on Facebook? If you do I would ask them to send a private message to the author of the post. Perhaps you could then arrange to meet in person for a friendly face to face chat about what is alleged to have happened.
It's possible that your mother is not in a fit state to be driving yet, or possibly ever following on from her illness.
Someone known to me, caused an accident which resulted in a young person losing a leg.
If what has been said on Facebook is factual then the matter needs addressing.

Are they certain they’ve photographed the correct car as the poster suggests the driver was driving with their wife?

I’m not sure if you’ll be able to contact the poster (or even if it’s wise to do so), but a chat with your mum might be the best way forward in the first instance as Cossy suggests.

Also, I think you’d be wise to ask for your post to be removed as it is broadcasting details of your mum’s car to everyone here, and this is an open forum, visible to anyone.

Just comment on the thread and ask the OP to message you so you can discuss what happened.

You could see if you can get your mum a test. I have an idea the AA or RAC run them.

Not helpful to the OP, but this sort of passive aggressive FB post really irritates me. We get a lot on my local page, too.

'I just want to thank the person who blocked me in by parking over my drive.'

'I hope the woman who told my daughter off for nearly knocking her over in the bus station is happy that she upset her.'

'I'm sure the parents of the boys who play loudly in the street when my mother is ill are very proud. And so on.'

The pointless complaints are bad enough, but why pretend to be thanking people or to claim to hope that they are proud? Everyone knows it's insincere, so it really doesn't help the case, and there is no point in posting on FB instead of complaining to the people concerned at the time.

In the OP's case, the post is quite threatening, and equally pointless, as the only people who can 'take the car off the road' are the police and/or courts, and they can't act on the sayso of a random FB poster. I think I would ask the person who sent it where it was posted, and then contact the group admin and ask for it to be removed.

MayBee70

Just comment on the thread and ask the OP to message you so you can discuss what happened.

Yes, that's what I would do too. Message them and ask for more details of the incident then maybe try to tactfully broach the subject with your mum.

Are they certain they’ve photographed the correct car as the poster suggests the driver was driving with their wife?

That was what I noticed, too. Possibly the person has identified the wrong car?

I'd talk to your Mum first.

Then I'd have a word with your local Community Police Officer, in case it's some kind of scam. ( The comment about 'your wife' raises a warning bell for me).

Only then would I attempt to contact the Facebook poster.

I think it’s a case of mistaken identity. The FB poster has said it was a man driving.

Yes this is definitely my mums car.
The post was put on Facebook yesterday; she would have used the car to go shopping (weekly shop, always Friday).
My dad doesn’t drive.
I think the person who posted presumed the driver of the car is male because of the number plate SEB, maybe short for Sebastian??
I’ve not been a passenger in mums car for a long time.
She’d not driven for 3 months, due to being ill.
Myself & my husband did offer to go out with her several times, but she declined the offer.

The poster is implying the driver is a man who she believes is your mum’s husband, so is possible she got the wrong car. Maybe it was a similar car to the one pictured with the post, and the reg could be similar too but obviously if only your mum was driving that day it sounds a bit off.
As others have said message the poster for more details.

Could she be mistaken for a man?
Some older women might if they were driving - and vice versa.
I overtook a very slow woman yesterday and my husband, in the passenger seat looked behind and said he thought it was a man.

My mother-in-law's neighbour has been off the road for about 12 months due to an eyesight problem- now resolved. He is 90 now and was told he's fit to drive again by his consultant.
He saw me yesterday and said he had decided that his three classic cars "had to go". He said he had become accustomed to not driving for a while and thought he would now be "not fit to drive" as so out of practice.
I felt very sad for him as it was his passion.

I hate to say it but I expect it was your mum.
She obviously wasn't alone though so maybe her passenger (your dad?) would have noticed.

NotSpaghetti

Could she be mistaken for a man?
Some older women might if they were driving - and vice versa.
I overtook a very slow woman yesterday and my husband, in the passenger seat looked behind and said he thought it was a man.

My mother-in-law's neighbour has been off the road for about 12 months due to an eyesight problem- now resolved. He is 90 now and was told he's fit to drive again by his consultant.
He saw me yesterday and said he had decided that his three classic cars "had to go". He said he had become accustomed to not driving for a while and thought he would now be "not fit to drive" as so out of practice.
I felt very sad for him as it was his passion.

I hate to say it but I expect it was your mum.
She obviously wasn't alone though so maybe her passenger (your dad?) would have noticed.

Yes she could be mistaken for a man; she does have very short hair.
I think that you’re right; it was my mum.
She would have had dad in the car, to go shopping.
I’ll be honest I don’t think that he would have noticed anything; he’s never driven a car & does not have an awareness of the roads.

I would advise you to ask the GN moderators to delete your post. It identifies your mother's car and potentially her. Has she given you permission to post this here? GN thread openers are routinely copied to Facebook and other social media so all you are doing is spreading the story.

Report it to FB too.

While one cannot just go to the DVLA and ask for a vehicle owner’s name and address out of curiosity, someone can if they can give a legitimate reason e.g. an accident or dispute of some kind, and pay a £2.50 fee. Don’t expose your mother to this and potential scammers.

By all means find out if she has been driving dangerously, perhaps be thankful that someone has alerted you to this however passive aggressive the FB post but do it privately.

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Mel1967

Hello,

The photo I’ve posted is of my Mum’s car; it had been posted on Facebook ( I don’t use Facebook) & someone I know sent it to me.
I’ve no idea what to do with this information now??
Any ideas would be appreciated.
Mum is 82 & recently returned to driving after being extremely ill.
Thank you 😊

Update:
Number Plate removed

I admit the parking is pretty poor Mel

Maybe, unfortunately, now is the time to stop driving.

I don’t understand the OP - oh well 😫

crazyH

I don’t understand the OP - oh well 😫

What is you don’t understand??