What do you make of this?

I think you're right Patsy70, we do need to talk to friends, to get it out of our system. Freedom of speech.... I'm all for it.

Is it that you feel he is trying to 'control ' what you can or can't say to others. Or was he just concerned you over shared personal information? Was he the one in the family scammed and embarrassed by it? You a big girl now and can have a conversation without his censorship, unless he was genuinely concerned you put yourself at risk. You could ask him why he was concerned?

Why not just tell your husband what you have said on here? Don't understand why you can't just have that discussion with him, tell him how you feel in a calm manner and liten to his point of view too.

"It didn't answer the question" but it wasn't a question, it was an accusation. You felt you were in the dock, being judged guilty whatever you replied. Rather like the old trick question, "Are you still beating your wife?", where neither "Yes" or "No" will get you acquitted.

This is definitely a red flag as it's controlling behaviour. If this sort of thing is something new and normally you can say whatever you like then that could merit a visit to the GP. But if he's always been like this ie listening to what you discuss with others and telling you off about it that's your choice to put up with it or challenge it.
My first husband was like that constantly asking who I spoke to at work, really angry if I discussed our electric bill with a friend etc. I divorced after 3 years.

We went to a Matinee yesterday and the person next to me struck up conversation before the play started which was unexpected as as Londoner myself and she wasnt it was very unusual for someone to have a chat. My DH didn't like this, he's a lovely man but can be possessive which I find rather annoying !

He sounds like he can be a bit of a controlling, old grump to me.

Men like that in their live in their heads in dull ,lonely caves. Where not a lot happens and they don't have much to say.

I bet he is secretly a bit jealous of you, having opinions and thoughts on life.

Al is going to really affect us all vey soon. And I thinking it is a crucial and very interesting topic for you to discuss.

Don't take any notice of him.

Enjoy your life
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My husband is always telling me off, or telling me how to do things Ive been doing for decades. This morning he tried to tell me how to measure out milk and porridge to cook in the microwave, and he's forever saying "you shouldn't touch that, what if everyone touched it" I'm 70 in a few weeks and he's driving me nuts. The most satisfying way I've found to deal with it is to ask him who he thinks he is, say that he's not my dad, and tell him I can do what I like. It makes me feel better and usually shuts him up. I think most men become unbearably stuffy, nosey and grumpy as they age. Don't stand for it!

I think I'd tell him to stop listening in to other people's conversations!

If this sort of remark from your husband is something totally new, I think you should not say more about it right now.

Try to treat it as if he just was grumpy, or perhaps had misheard or misunderstood your conversation with the neighbour.

If he continues to make similar remarks when he chances to hear a conversation with another person, then I would start wondering how I should react if I were in your place.

Years ago, my husband heard, or rather misheard, part of a telephone conversation I was having with an acquaintance. When I explained what we actually been talking about, he realised it in no way had anything to do with his behaviour (which he had thought) and we never again had a similar discussion.

Your account made me wonder if your husband's hearing may be becoming less acute? Did he actually hear what you were saying, or did he assume he heard something you did not say?

It seems he overheard a completely innocous conversation and misunderstood the detalis of it. If this sort of thing continues, you may feel you have to consider whether his behaviour is changing in other ways too, and why, but honestly it does not sound so serious to me.

I understand why you feel you have been treated like an erring child, but you could turn it round and say your husband was eavesdropping on a conversation he had no right to be listening to!

My DH has got into the habit of telling me what "WE" agreed, or what "WE" like or do not like, when he has neither discussed with me nor would it be my opinion.

Think it is just a man thing...

He may be embarrassed to think he is not AI literate, evn though you did not say that at all