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LaCrepescule Thu 27-Aug-26 21:18:03

My precious only child, 26, has been referred on the suspected cancer pathway for a long-standing neck lump and has an ultrasound scan next week. The results will take a while to come back. I’m trying to hold things together for her sake but am catasrophising and my anxiety levels are sky high.
She lives an hour away with her lovely flatmate and is much calmer than me!
I’m keeping busy but it all seems a bit unreal. My friends are being really supportive but I don’t want to talk to them about it anymore, lest it becomes boring. Just looking for a handhold really.

LaCrepescule Thu 27-Aug-26 22:35:30

Bless you all. I’m going to try and get some sleep and face tomorrow with acceptance. It’s ok to be frightened and I can lean into my friends. I’m a recovering alcoholic in AA and so grateful to be sober.

J52 Thu 27-Aug-26 22:36:01

Hand hold and hugs here. I hope all turns out well. 🤞💐

MollyNew Thu 27-Aug-26 22:36:56

I would feel just the same. Sending you my best wishes flowers

Patsy70 Thu 27-Aug-26 22:43:04

A difficult time for you. My daughter had breast cancer in early 2019, so I can empathise with you. MacMillan were a great source of help and support. Your friends will be there for you and will not find it boring. All best wishes to you and your daughter. ♥️💐

MartavTaurus Thu 27-Aug-26 22:51:58

Every best wish for your daughter. 💐
I hope the wait isn't too long and that she gets reassuring news.

lovethepuppies Thu 27-Aug-26 23:16:12

It's always so hard not knowing and waiting for the answer. Maybe easier said than done but try to remember that usually they are being cautious and everything is just fine.

crazyH Thu 27-Aug-26 23:29:40

My daughter had similar - a lump on her neck. We went through an anxious couple of weeks - she was operated on within a few days. Thank Heaven , it was a non-cancerous cyst on her thyroid gland.
We’ve had a few anxious times, with lumps - with various members of the family. But, all turned out ok.
So , don’t worry too much - worst case scenario, treatment these days has advanced so much. Your precious daughter will be fine. Thinking of you all flowers

crazyH Thu 27-Aug-26 23:31:56

Another thing, if it’s a long-standing lump, I doubt it’s anything sinister x