Please help me stay calm

You probably feel a bit better for posting here and lots of replies will follow. I have not been in a similar position to yours but here's a hand to hold till some more experienced people get here.

Thank you 💐

I'm sure we'd all be the same in your shoes, it's bound to be a very worrying time for you all. At least it is being investigated, and hopefully everything will be fine.

Plenty of handholds here LaCrepescule.
Place you have supportive friends- make use of them . No good me telling you not to worry because of course you will!
However people on GN care and send you strength. Thinking about you and your precious daughter. 💐💐

Pleased !!

If it’s of any comfort, my DH has been referred three times in the last 18 months on the cancer pathway, each time false alarm.

Sometimes it’s used to fastrack a diagnosis.

Many many lumps are benign.

It’s such a horrible time for you all, but at least your DH will get answers and quickly.

Deep breaths and I’m 🙏🙏🙏 for your DD

Hand held out. I would feel the same xx.
Know that many people are on that pathway and it can be precautionary. I can only say I've been on the cancer pathway probably like many GN's and their family, and it has turned out to be benign - like a cyst or swollen lymph node.

But of course it does have to be checked.

for your waitings

She just wants to get on with her normal life and doesn’t want me at the appointment because she doesn’t want to make it “more important than it is.”
So proud of her. The GP was pretty awful, didn’t even tell her she was being fast-tracked and she only found out from the paperwork.
She’s already had a telephone triage appointment with a specialist nurse who took the full history and said she felt absolutely reassured but I know only a scan can confirm the diagnosis.

Thinking of you, LaCrepescule. It’s a very hard path to walk. I hope there’s a sunny ending for you both.

My GP once said to me that he preferred it when he could make referrals later - ie referring wasn't the first stage of the process - as he knew what to say to get things prioritised. In my case it would have been that he thought he'd heard a heart murmur. The truth was that he wanted a heart scan that under the system he had to abide by was ow led by a cardiac team who were entirely unfamiliar with my medical history.

Who knows? Something like that could be going on with your daughter. I completely understand your terror, and would feel the same in your shoes, but we don't always know the full facts.

Please let us know how she gets on? And remember to look after yourself in all this? We are all here for a handhold whenever you need one. x

Yes I have just been referred urgently to a clinic but my GP has assured me he doesn’t regard it asparticularly urgent but a routine appointment would take months!

So sorry to read this LaCrepescule. Always best to keep your fears to yourself until test results are completed.

It can be so upsetting to have friends asking all the time how is your DD. Has she had the result? I doubt if your friends are finding anything boring, but their questions and concern probably make you feel worse and then you may relay too much anxiety onto your DD. Step back if you can and give yout mind a rest.

Hopefully she will have not too long to wait after the scan for the results. Although there may be other tests to be completed depending on what is seen on the scan.
As others have said many many lumps prove to be benign. I expect you are fearing the worst, but try and be positive for your own sake and for your DD. She is on the pathway and all will be done.

I’d be the same. Hugs and .

🙏❤️

Here’s a hand hold from me too

When my son was in a similar position I phoned the Macmillan helpline and they were so helpful .Its 0808 808 0000 and you can phone anytime between 8am and 8pm to speak to a nurse with lots of knowledge
I found it really helpful as my son refused to discuss anything . Thankfully that was many years ago and it ended well ...hope you also get a good outcome 🫰🫰

🙏🏻💐

Sending you and your DD my best wishes, and a hand hold for you 💐🙏

Another hand being offered 🙏

And mine. 🙏

🙏💐

Mine too 🙏

A big hug from me too 🤞🏼🤗
Keep us in touch hopefully it ll soon be over and you can relax
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