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Losing a grandchild

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LucyGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 19-Dec-13 11:10:35

This week, Aka describes the heartbreaking experience of losing a grandchild, and the varying degrees of help and support available when the unimaginable happens.

Please do leave your thoughts below.

Mishap Thu 19-Dec-13 11:46:09

It is almost impossible to read this. I cannot imagine how you have all coped with it. I can only send kind thoughts.

Ariadne Thu 19-Dec-13 11:50:12

This is heart wrenching indeed. No words can express my sympathy for you all, or my admiration for your strength in writing this.

tanith Thu 19-Dec-13 11:50:29

Such a heartbreaking story, thank you Aka that can't of been easy to tell.

whenim64 Thu 19-Dec-13 11:51:31

What a heartbreaking story to read. Having the loss of a child who you have become close to, and begun to anticipate their life in your loving family, just doesn't bear contemplating. My sincere condolences.

Venus Thu 19-Dec-13 12:01:07

I'm so sorry for your lose. It is comforting to hear that you found support from others that have experienced the same tragic circumstances. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Ana Thu 19-Dec-13 12:05:53

Such a shocking thing to happen and to have to try to come to terms with, Aka - for you and the whole family. It can't be easy to talk about. flowers

kittylester Thu 19-Dec-13 12:16:49

Very brave Aka. Thank you for telling Tommy's story. Love to you all. flowers

ninathenana Thu 19-Dec-13 12:16:53

Aka there are no words ((hugs))

A friend lost her DGS at 2 1/2 in similar circumstances. I know what the family went through.

gillybob Thu 19-Dec-13 12:31:40

Just read your very sad story Aka. I cannot begin to imagine what you and your family have gone through. Thank you for sharing this with us. What a gorgeous boy he was. smile

Bellasnana Thu 19-Dec-13 12:37:54

Surely there is no pain deeper than the loss of a child. Words are not adequate to express the sorrow I feel for you and your family. flowers

grannyactivist Thu 19-Dec-13 12:50:46

Aka my baby brother died at this time of year in almost identical circumstances. It was very many years ago, but the shock and sense of loss lingered for a long, long time. I really do admire you for writing about something so personal and painful and for raising awareness in doing so. flowers

Nelliemoser Thu 19-Dec-13 12:52:38

Aka That is just so dreadful for you all. He looks very like my little blond 15mnth DGS does now. I do find these things so hard to even think about. (((hugs)))

Jill Thu 19-Dec-13 12:53:29

There are not enough words to comfort this brave family.
I hope that time is the great healer that it is supposed to be!
You are, all, in my thoughts. (flowers)

Jill Thu 19-Dec-13 12:55:37

There are not enough words to comfort this brave family.
I hope that time is the great healer that it is supposed to be!
You are, all, in my

Grannyknot Thu 19-Dec-13 13:00:03

Aka what a darling boy in that treasured photograph.

Our family too lost a child, my little niece whose name was "Joy" and indeed that is what she was. I will never forget seeing her age written on the death certificate "2.8" - two years and 8 months. So little. She would have been 21 this year.

Looking at the photograph of your grandson makes him so real. A little person.

Heartfelt condolences.

Soutra Thu 19-Dec-13 13:01:35

This makes for sobering reading and I can imagine how the heart breaking memories are even more vivid at this time of the year. Since becoming a grandparent, I like most of us, I imagine, have become even more sensitised to the tragedy of a child's death.It was always something to be feared but in a theoretical way.
The intensity of my love for my grandchildren has made me realise how I neglected my own parents and their sorrow when we lost our first baby aged 24 days, 40 years ago. I was so wrapped up in my own grief that I never stopped to think how his grandparents were suffering - twice over, once on our behalf but also on ther own, having lost a much wanted grandson before they could even get to know him properly. At times like these we remember the precious gift of a healthy baby, the gift of a safe delivery and know that we must never take these precious gifts for granted.
Thank you aka for sharing this with us, all the more so when you and your family must be reliving the pain of those dark days .( flowers seem so inadequate, but anyway xx)

Nonu Thu 19-Dec-13 13:12:59

With my deepest sympathy to you and your family , aka.

shysal Thu 19-Dec-13 13:23:31

What a dreadful time that was Aka. My thoughts are with your family at this time. Christmas must be hard to face. flowers

newist Thu 19-Dec-13 14:21:20

This is all so very very sad, and so brave of Aka to share it with us, there are no words I can say, that have not been said already.
These flowers are for you and your family with sympathy

merlotgran Thu 19-Dec-13 14:26:08

What a terribly sad event and how brave you are to share it with us, Aka. Deepest sympathy to you and your family.

POGS Thu 19-Dec-13 14:37:12


Sorry is not the appropriate word to use but what can one say.

Your story is every parent and grandparents nightmare.

I am going to look up the organisation you mentioned and I shall send them a donation.

Sincere love and wishes you and your family share happy memories this Christmas of your darling little boy. flowers [love]

NanSue Thu 19-Dec-13 15:09:20


Such a tragic thing for your family to deal with. I think this is something that we all think about from time to time, I can think of nothing worse. There are no words to comfort you, however I send my deepest sympathy, kind thoughts and best wishes to you all.xx

Lona Thu 19-Dec-13 15:12:51

Aka Everyone dreads this sort of tragedy, I can hardly bear to think of your pain and that of your family.
Thank you for being brave enough to write about it.
My deepest sympathies to all of you at what must be a very sad time of year.

Sook Thu 19-Dec-13 15:33:34

A heart rending story Aka and so very brave of you to share it and raise awareness. flowers