My husband has just died. I do not have the complex grieving issues that you have Phoenix. But during his last illness there was a big falling out with his daughters and one of them still will not speak to me. I really don't know why though I have my theories. In the past we got on really well. One thing I have learned is that you can't account for the behaviour of others and that to try to understand them can be a real waste of emotional energy. But it doesn't stop us trying to work it out. I have two friends who were pary or wholly estranged when their mothers died. They have worked through their issues and now accept that they did what they could but were not responsible for their mothers' behaviour.
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴
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