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kezia Sat 29-Apr-17 17:15:47

I'm sitting waiting for the phone call to say that my sister has died. She's my step but our parents were married 37 years ago. Both of our parents have died in the last 3 years so this is coming on the back of an accumulation of grief. I travelled to see her at the beginning of the week and was with her when the consultant told her there was nothing more to be done and we started the 'end of life care' discussion. I promised her that I'd go back today (it's a nearly 200 mile round trip) but I had a message early this morning from my nephew saying that he and his sister had been there all night and her death was expected at any time. I decided that it was their time to be with her and not mine but I've spent all day wondering if I've done the right thing. I think I have but I wish that I knew I had

Daisyanswerdo Sun 30-Apr-17 17:43:49

Kezia flowers and my heartfelt condolences.

cornergran Sun 30-Apr-17 18:32:52

A difficult time,*Kezia*, your sister knew you loved her, take care of yourself now flowers.

downsized Sun 30-Apr-17 18:42:22

You have my heartfelt sympathy as well, Kezia.

I spent last summer with my lovely sister( who had reached the point of no return due to breast cancer) and had the same dilemma as you when the end was approaching in early October. I talked to her every day on the phone (I live in Malta, she was in Kent) and we agreed to remember each other from when we said goodbye.

She died on 10th October and I did wonder whether I had done the right thing. It's always going to be a tough decision, but I think you did the right thing.

Sincere sympathy, again, on your sad loss flowers

Bellanonna Sun 30-Apr-17 19:01:17

From me, too, Kezia. ??

Lona Sun 30-Apr-17 19:08:39

So sorry Kezia , a sad time for you flowers

nanaK54 Sun 30-Apr-17 19:35:05

kezia I am sorry for your loss flowers and hugs x

grannyqueenie Sun 30-Apr-17 20:16:31

As others have said you made the right decision kezia, it's good have the memory of a positive goodbye with someone you love. Sounds like you have had a difficult time recently with losing a number of significant people in your life. Be kind to yourself, I hope you have folk around you who understand and with whom you can share your sense of loss. ?

kezia Sun 30-Apr-17 21:22:32

Thank you all for your thoughts and good wishes. It's been an odd day which I have opted to spend alone and feel better for doing so.

callgirl1 Sun 30-Apr-17 21:27:48

May I send my sincere condolences Kezia? I`m so sorry for the loss of your dear sister.