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Losing a pet

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pooohbear2811 Thu 13-Jul-17 09:57:51

We lost our wee dog last week. We had rescued her only just over 14 months ago, she was only 7, but from having an x-ray at our vet for a persistent cough to being referred onto a vet hospital for a scan, to redoing the scans a week early as she had gone down hill very rapidly, and putting her to sleep was less than 6 weeks. She had an aggressive cancer and there was nothing we could do despite having pet insurance to cover any costs.
It hurts like hell to lose a pet and the grief is terrible.
We have gone through the guilt of "did she get taken because we had thought about sending her back more than once in the first 10 weeks as she was a nightmare" of course she didnt we kept her didnt we.
Was it because she was a nightmare with other dogs ( though was improving) and we jokingly wished we had a dog that got on with other dogs? so maybe she was taken so we could get that other dog? But then we had adapted to her ways and just took her where in general there were not other dogs and kept her on the lead where there were others.
Was it cos hubby mentioned "she tied us down", well I did not mind being tied down for the odd occasion it was an issue the eldest DGD came round to sit with her.
All of these negatives were well outweighed by the positives of the waggy tail that wagged the whole dog, to the joy in her eyes when we took her places. The way she ran to meet me on when I came in from work and had the routine of sniffing to see if there was anything nice in my bag ( never was) for her to eat before going onto the 3rd or 4th stair so I could stroke her and make a fuss of her and tell her how much I loved her.
I miss her not being there to meet me, to sit with me and to lie on the bottom of the bed hogging the quilt.
RIP little Lilly.

Sparklefizz Tue 18-Jul-17 18:42:26

devongirl Thank you for your lovely comments, and I am so sorry to hear your story. I found a number of companies supplying secure cat fencing (there's a definite need, all from people who have lost one or more cats on the roads or whatever)and did some research to pick up ideas, and watched a video on Youtube about how to do it oneself.

One of the companies, Felisafe, will sell the netting and brackets needed separately, so in the end I contacted a local handyman who has done some jobs for me in the past, and ordered what was necessary from Felisafe. I have 7 foot high brick walls round my garden but my remaining cat would run all the way up the wall and then drop down the other side.

She was a bit peeved when she first found she couldn't do that, and she really did try, and clung on to the netting, but the design is simple yet clever and she couldn't get over it. I have seen video clips of people's cats trying and not succeeding. It really does work.

She soon got used to staying in the garden, and it's such a relief for me to know that she's safe .... from being run over, from other cats, from dogs or foxes. I only wish I'd found out about these ideas sooner and saved the lives of my last 2 cats, so I'll be pleased if my posts on here help anybody decide to do the same.

phoenix Wed 19-Jul-17 00:25:04

Sending every good wish to all who have lost beloved animal companions, it is so hard when they go, but unfortunately it is the price we pay for the sad fact that usually we live longer than they do.

But, please think about the great pleasure that they brought to you, and the lovely times you shared.

Xxxx