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Bereavement

My beloved child

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Anniebach Wed 01-Nov-17 18:45:42

My beloved daughter took her life in the early hours of this morning.

My first born, my joy, my best friend , my laughter, my tears

I am broken

Annie

gillybob Fri 10-Nov-17 10:56:32

The extra n was the least of the problems in my last post. Gobbledegook at its best . Sorry (I'm blaming my phone) .

Cherrytree59 Fri 10-Nov-17 11:05:46

Annie bless you,
There is nothing stronger then a mothers love.
you said what any mother would have said.
You were her nearest and dearest, looking out for her when she was at her most vulnerable.
I pray that your DDs beautiful service will bring your family back together or even just a little closer.

God bless you xxxx

Swanny Fri 10-Nov-17 11:31:38

I've just looked up the following for someone else and thought you might like it too. It is sent with love -

Deep peace of the Running Wave to you
Deep peace of the Flowing Air to you
Deep peace of the Quiet Earth to you
Deep peace of the Shining Stars to you
Deep peace of the Gentle Night to you
Moon and stars pour their Healing Light on you
Deep peace of Christ to you

Anniebach Fri 10-Nov-17 11:38:25

Beautiful Swanny and accepted with love

And again thank you all x just seven more days , grit your teeth please and bear with me

Galen Fri 10-Nov-17 11:47:58

We are all here for you and each other.
I may not post often but what I’m doing is thinking of you.

lemongrove Fri 10-Nov-17 11:48:03

NanKate and Swanny those are both lovely verses.
Annie I think that many of us would have done and said what you did to protect our DD.
The Internet has great good and great harm too, with Facebook.

Crafting Fri 10-Nov-17 12:14:40

We will all be here with you annie and not just for the next seven days. Keep posting and share as many of your thoughts as you wish with us. No judgement here. I am praying for you to find some peace. Lots of kind people on here with thoughtful words that many can take comfort from. xx

soop Fri 10-Nov-17 12:36:40

Dear Annie stay strong. flowers

Gagagran Fri 10-Nov-17 13:38:30

Thinking of you every day Annie. So brave in your sadness - you are an inspiration.

I wish you peace in the days ahead and hope that you can finally get some rest. There are so many people sending supportive vibes. I hope they help, not just for the next seven days but in the weeks and months to come afterwards. flowers

Willow500 Fri 10-Nov-17 13:58:49

It's one thing to be in a chat room with the person's consent and participation - quite something else to do what they did and so hurtful to read their gossip and comments about something they couldn't have known anything about! You did everything you could to protect your precious girl and it's hard to understand why they couldn't see that at the time - even worse now that they are still estranged at such a tragic time. I hesitate to say shame on them but it's probably how everyone would feel reading that.

Anniebach Fri 10-Nov-17 14:17:41

When my grandchildren asked why I said - they are very Mid Wales and I am very South Wales smile . Some truth really, this area and the Merthyr area have always had problems. You can take a gal out of the valleys but can't take the valleys out of the gal.

Menopaws Fri 10-Nov-17 14:22:03

Never stop thinking of you annie xx

hildajenniJ Fri 10-Nov-17 14:23:30

I'm in agreement here. You did exactly what I would have done in similar circumstances Annie. We here, are all your extended virtual family, sisters all together. Our thoughts are all with you at this time. flowers

Crafting Fri 10-Nov-17 18:53:37

Hope you get some sleep tonight annie. Thinking of you (hug)

Christinefrance Fri 10-Nov-17 19:02:04

Think we would all do the same thing to protect our sick child Annie social media seems to bring out the worst in people at times.
Thinking of you and hoping you are finding strength and support from your faith and friends flowers

Bellanonna Fri 10-Nov-17 19:07:05

Others have said it all really Annie. Thinking of you always.

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Nov-17 19:21:37

She is your daughter Annie and I think that any of us would have done the same under the circumstances to protect our child, even when they are adults.

I have (so far) only found FB to be a positive experience but I know that it has its evil, upsetting side and I am so sorry that you encountered this.

flowers

starbird Fri 10-Nov-17 19:33:13

Annie you are worth ten times your family members who have not spoken or written to you to offer condolences. Stay strong and don't be afraid to lean on your real friends. You are amazing

Anniebach Fri 10-Nov-17 19:34:15

I can't blame face book, my nephew for opening the chat room even though private and my family for joining him there are fully responsible for their actions, good grief he is 50 years of age, he had my trust

NfkDumpling Fri 10-Nov-17 20:35:55

Yep, your nephew was wrong in sharing what should have been confidential. And your family are surely wrong for not making any allowances for the stress you’ve been under. I’m an only child with no close cousins so family stuff is a bit of a mystery to me. Have you close friends near?

NfkDumpling Fri 10-Nov-17 20:37:01

And have you eaten this evening?!!

Anniebach Fri 10-Nov-17 20:52:01

Lost my five closest friends, one moved to live near her son, one has been taken very ill, something which caused veins in her head to swell, no idea what it's called, two died, one moved for change of job. Can't go to the church I attended for many years, have to go over the bridge, so please believe me this is not self pity, just explaining my isolation. And granddaughters both in university now. And Honey died .

Anniebach Fri 10-Nov-17 20:54:08

Ate some chicken and have drank half a carton Ensure, going to try the rest now, I never eat after six so perhaps this will help that damn 3.00am reflux

Tegan2 Fri 10-Nov-17 20:57:25

I sometimes use a bean bag instead of a pillow, Annie, as that means I'm sitting up in bed rather than lying down. Hope you sleep well tonight. xx

Chewbacca Fri 10-Nov-17 21:00:17

You've had more to bear than anyone should Anniebach. But you're stronger than you think, and you have so many friends here who are supporting you. You're much loved and we're all here for you. Glad you've eaten tonight. x

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