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Bereavement

My son, Annie's daughter and all taken too young

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Day6 Fri 17-Nov-17 11:29:42

Bellasnana. That reduced me to tears. I am thinking of a friend.

There is a young man now lying in a hospital bed, waiting for death to come. He has been given weeks to live and a hospice place is being sought for him. He is never going back to his bedroom at home. A month ago he thought he'd be able to live with his illness, and so did his Mum, but doctors broke it to them that his life will end soon. And he cried. He is lying there knowing he hasn't long and it is so wrong. He is such a decent, hard working, loving young man.

I cannot think of his mother without feeling my insides twist and tears springing to my eyes. I do not know what to say to her. I feel pain for her situation. She is in Hell, pure agony. It is a parent's worst nightmare.

My deepest sympathy to all of you who have lost a child. A dear friend lost her daughter in her teens, thirty years ago and she hasn't stopped grieving that loss, ever. She says people imagine she is 'over it' but she says she is changed for ever and hurts every day.

Life can be so cruel.

silverlining48 Fri 17-Nov-17 11:25:26

I will add my condolences to all who have lost a child and to all who grieve today and every day. Its a journey no parent ever wants to take. Thanks bellasnan and nonnie. flowers

MissAdventure Fri 17-Nov-17 11:23:24

A good friend recently sent me this..

Jamison Fri 17-Nov-17 11:06:29

How.beautiful Nonnie, sincere condolences to you x

Bellasnana Fri 17-Nov-17 10:36:59

This popped up on my Facebook today. The loss of a child of any age is unbearable and every parent's worst nightmare.

My deepest sympathy to Nonnie, Annie and all who grieve flowers

Marydoll Fri 17-Nov-17 10:13:30

Nonnie, I am going to save this poem, it has touched me greatly. Thank you.
I'm so sorry you are feeling sad today. So much pain on GN just now. flowers

Nonnie Fri 17-Nov-17 10:03:51

I have no idea why I am driven to share this today. Maybe it is the date, 17th was always a special number for us and we believe it was his last full day of life.

This poem was sent to us by his Godmother and I have already shared it with Annie. May it bring comfort to all who have lost an adult child, especially those who were suffering.

I'm Free

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free,
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard his call,
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love, to work, to play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way,
I've found that peace at the close of the day.

If my parting has left a void,
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss,
Ah yes, these things I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My Life's been full, I savoured much,
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch,

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me,
God wanted me now, He set me free.

He is no longer in pain which is our only comfort.