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Bereavement

Do you understand ?

(59 Posts)
nigglynellie Mon 24-Sept-18 12:06:52

Annie, hugs, hugs and more hugs.???. (This is a bunch of roses for you) ??

Nonnie Mon 24-Sept-18 11:42:38

Annie you know that I understand. They tell us it gets easier but I haven't found that yet. All I can say is that gradually I am coping with it better but the pain remains.

Auntieflo Mon 24-Sept-18 10:56:05

Sorry about the typos

Auntieflo Mon 24-Sept-18 10:55:33

Annie, I don't know what to say. You have made me cry with your heartfelt sorrow for your daughter. We all know hiw much you loved her, I think, we here on GN also love you for the way you have, with greta dignity, shared your love and loss. I can't do anything, but I send you {{{hugs}}} and my prayers.
As Julian of Nowich said
"All will be well, and all will be well, and all manner of things shall be well"
We never know what is in store for us, but have a peaceful day. Your family live and care for you. So do we.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 24-Sept-18 10:49:37

Sending you hugs Anniebach ????

My heart cries every day for my Mum, I appreciate it is the natural order to lose our parents. Your daughter died in the most tragic of circumstances which must make it so much harder to bear.

Juggernaut Mon 24-Sept-18 10:48:23

Annie
Sending you flowersflowersflowers, sunshine and a big cuddle. X

PECS Mon 24-Sept-18 10:45:51

Annie I cannot pretend to understand how you actually feel but I can sense your almost tangible pain at the loss of a beloved daughter.
As a mum of two daughters myself a I can only imagine my feelings if I were in your situation. Those really mixed emotions of happiness that your family is OK and lovely but the continued sadness at the loss of your child will be hard to experience. flowers

Bathsheba Mon 24-Sept-18 10:41:16

Yes I do understand Annie. Bereavement is a very long road and it's hard to witness other people's happiness, no matter how much you are thankful that they are dealing with the loss in their own way, and 'getting on with their lives'. Your loss is still very painful to you. So yes, I do understand and I'm sending you ((((hugs)))) flowers

Anniebach Mon 24-Sept-18 10:33:55

Last Saturday was my son in law’s birthday. My three grandchildren travelled here to celebrate with him which was lovely, one drove from Cornwall.

They all went out for dinner, three grandchildren , two partners, son in law who isn’t , wife and children, my entire family .

My son in law has been dating a woman for a while, I fully encouraged this. He was faithful to my daughter the seven years they lived apart and he was devasted when she died. Son in law who isn’t had to force him to leave the mortuary, he wanted to stay with her.

The woman joined them for the dinner. I fully support this, but I found it heartbreaking. Whilst they were at dinner my youngest grandchild sent me 2 texts, when my daughter was young and went out for an evening, she would often phone, ‘ hi Mum, I just saw x x , hi Mum xx and xx have broken up,
This amused us because she was coming home later that evening, nothing that was at all important.

Last Saturday night I had such mixed feelings, Happy they were all enjoying themselves yet such a longing, she should have been there, and the text from my granddaughter was a reminder of such happy times .

I am thankful they are getting on with their lives , but my life ? She was the centre of it and she is dead .