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The ghoulishness of Hallowe’en?

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MawBroon Sun 14-Oct-18 10:11:38

There was a letter in the DT yesterday from a woman who had recently lost her mother, saying she feels she cannot cope with the “ghoulish” imagery of Halloween.
Setting aside what I suspect most of us feel about the incredibly overdone Halloween “thing,” it got me thinking too.
OK it is all a bit of harmless fun for the kids, but the graveyard/skull/skeleton imagery is also very disturbing especially to the recently bereaved.
Graham Norton, the DT’s “agony uncle” gave this advice

Don’t focus on the morbid imagery and more ghoulish elements, listen instead to the excited screams of the children, their joy at dressing up, their laughter when they see their friends in costumes saying this is a reminder that life goes on.
I am sure he has a valid point, but this aspect of death (skeletons , ghouls, ghosties etc) is not one I am comfortable with dwelling on, nor I hope do the DGCs make that connection with the smiling loving Grandpa they have lost.
Any thoughts?

MawBroon Tue 16-Oct-18 09:27:08

Depending on shape and size .....I’d rather not say blushgrin

maddyone Tue 16-Oct-18 09:50:40

GabriellaG, much as I thought then!

maddyone Tue 16-Oct-18 09:52:31

GabriellaG, and no obvious reason to claim to be more intelligent than the rest of the Gransnetters.

maddyone Tue 16-Oct-18 09:55:48

And a further unpleasant post, particularly with reference to ‘brown nose’, in poor taste and rather vulgar.

annodomini Tue 16-Oct-18 10:05:07

Oh, GrannyQ, how could I forget toffee apples? No wonder I have a history of dodgy teeth!

grannyqueenie Tue 16-Oct-18 10:35:53

grin

moggie57 Tue 16-Oct-18 13:25:11

every halloween ,we get it shoved in the face.yes i can see that kids want to dress up and get frighten away evil spirits with pumpkins etc...that bit is fun. what i dont like is that the kids in the uk treat halloween as a time they can run wild, throw eggs etc and fireworks on buses into people homes. and generally cause mayhem. they dress up with the most scariest masks that is not fun its down right evil.if halloween was like the do it in the usa yes it would be fun.. i been to usa and allowed my d to take part in a halloween walk about the neighbourhood,and get sweets/candy. people over their put pumkins etc on their porches and gardens and yes it looks nice and its a bit of fun.yes i am a christian lady and i work voluntary for salvation army. but put aside that/ .i dont think halloween should be celebrated...........in a way its inviting evil in not out......and going begging around peoples doors is asking for trouble.. yes i know an adult usually accompanies them...but why celebrate evil spirits anyway.......

Rufus2 Tue 16-Oct-18 13:50:38

Better to be a bit dim
Jalima; You're not dim; you're a livewire! shock

harrigran Tue 16-Oct-18 14:20:59

I am afraid to comment on this subject with this superior intelligence policing the thread ??

EllanVannin Tue 16-Oct-18 14:21:16

Do you live in Liverpool GabriellaG ?

Chewbacca Tue 16-Oct-18 14:33:49

And the abundance of modesty and self depreciation too, harrigran!

Anniebach Tue 16-Oct-18 14:46:02

Abundance of modesty and self deprecation, I like that Cheebacca , the oposite of blowing one’s own trumpet ?

EllanVannin Tue 16-Oct-18 14:50:41

Some people don't need to wear masks, it's inbuilt ! You've only to look at the news/newspapers to see mugshots of criminals and the like. Enough to give you nightmares for a week. Who needs Halloween ? It's an everyday occurrence.

notanan2 Tue 16-Oct-18 15:41:21

.*but why celebrate evil spirits anyway.......*

It is celebrating the thinning of the veil. That covers ALL spirits and many christian denominations celebrate it as a month where the deceased can hear your prayers more clearly.

moggie57 Tue 16-Oct-18 17:03:51

thats all saints day.where you remember people who have died .all souls day ,not halloween

Grandma70s Tue 16-Oct-18 17:07:56

I’ve read much of this thread with a degree of surprise, because it has never occurred to me to equate skeletons etc wit the real people I know who have died. To me a person is not the body and bones, but the spirit, character and personality.

notanan2 Tue 16-Oct-18 17:17:35

Moggie is is the same thing. Just different interpretations of it. The common theme is that the veil is thin, your loved ones can give you direction through prayer is one of them.

It is not about "evil" it is about the WHOLE spectrum

Jalima1108 Tue 16-Oct-18 18:04:41

Jalima; You're not dim; you're a livewire!
I wish Rufus
(shattered after just half a day's shopping grin)

Eloethan Tue 16-Oct-18 18:21:21

I haven't had the time to read anything but the first page of this thread so please excuse me if I am repeating what others have said.

I am not a fan of Halloween. However, if it consisted of cobwebs, pumpkins, witches with broomsticks and pointy hats, apple bobbing, ghost stories - that type of thing - I would not find it offensive.

In its current form, I think it is absolutely vile. Over recent years I have seen an escalation in the sheer brutality of the occasion - a window with the silhouette of a man brandishing a long knife and a women cowering in front of him. I have seen lifelike looking dismembered, bloodied hands, terribly disfigured faces, etc. etc. etc.

In my opinion, this is a celebration of the very depths of human behaviour and personal tragedy and I think it is despicable to use this as entertainment for children.

But really it's all about money - the ghastly tat in the supermarkets, the selling of party food, costumes and the like. Any opportunity to big up the event and make more money.

GrannyGravy13 Tue 16-Oct-18 18:25:35

Eloethan, I wholeheartedly agree with everything in your post ??

Jzpap Tue 16-Oct-18 18:39:36

I wasn’t keen on Halloween when my children were young as I didn’t like them knocking on people’s doirs asking for sweets as to me it’s essentially begging. Also there were several incidents that occurred in our village involving eggs being thrown and general bad behaviour by teenagers whereby the police would end up being called. I’ve mellowed a bit, I don’t mind a Halloween party but I still don’t like the trick or treat element. Also why is all the Halloween stuff in supermarkets so incredibly tacky? I think I’d rather we celebrated the Mexican Day of The Dead Festival at least it doesn’t involve blood and gore and throwing eggs

maddyone Tue 16-Oct-18 18:48:53

I also wholeheartedly agree with you Eloethan.

lemongrove Tue 16-Oct-18 19:34:47

Me too, but unfortunately the genie can’t be put back into the bottle. We are stuck with the awfulness and the tat.

Anniebach Tue 16-Oct-18 20:39:01

All Saints Day, 1st November when all Saints and Martyrs , known and unknown throughout hidtory remembered

All Souls Day 2nd November when the faithful departed are remembered

keffie Tue 16-Oct-18 22:12:00

Our local Christian church fellowship has an event on Halloween called Lights, to help counter this which is about light and love in the world. Alot of children attend this (no Halloween masks allowed) from within and out of the church (secular) and then many of them go on to do Halloween after. Sighs! We just try to offer an alternative