Wedding rings after death of husband

I haven’t lost my husband, but if I did, I would continue to to wear my wedding, engagement, and eternity rings without any doubt. They were given as gifts, they would continue to be received gifts, even if the husband is deceased. However, it is different in the event of a divorce.

There is no “normal” in this situation. The way we deal with the loss of a spouse/partner is as individual as we are and nobody should be criticised if their way is different to ours. I was widowed nearly eight years ago and took off my ring after about two years. My choice and nobody else’s business. In reality, I no longer felt married, we were parted by his death. Whatever you decide should be right for you and not influenced by the expectations of others.

My father was buried with his wedding ring on and he outlived my mother by nine years.

I can't imagine taking my wedding ring off, if I survive my husband.

Even if the day comes where you meet another man whom you come to love, you will obviously tell him that you have been married and widowed, so why would anyone who had been happily married want to take off their ring?

It would be different, perhaps, if the marriage hadn't been all that happy.

It's non of your acquaintance business.

grandtanteJE65. It’s an individuals choice and it’s not up to you or anyone else to criticise .

My husband died 16 months ago I wear mine on my left hand still and his ring on my right hand

Each and everyone of us is different, I have very sensitive skin and consequently can go days or even weeks without my wedding band (or any other rings) on.

We should only do what we are comfortable with, nobody's business apart from yours Gypsyqueen13

I wear my mum's ring on my right hand and when I travel to different countries I say to the ring we're going to....... today Places she didn't have the chance to go to usually.

Yes, I agree with the majority on here, it's part of you and your late husband, why would you want to take it off? Keep wearing it with pride........with love.......and in memory of your departed husband. God bless

Why are so many people so judgemental of decisions made by those that have been widowed? If you are lucky enough to still have your husband, you have absolutely no idea of the issues!

I would not dream of removing my wedding ring. DH died in February and in my head we are still married and always will be. I would love to wear his ring, which he never ever took off, but it is miles too big for me, even my thumb. It is in my jewellery box. I cannot imagine why anyone would suggest such a thing.

My mum is 94 and like ninathenana's mum still wears hers. She can't get her original wedding ring off as her knuckles have got bigger. Sadly some toerag stole her bag and purse (while she worked inthe church garden!!!) which had her original engagement ring plus the 'new' wedding band and engagement ring Dad had bought her over the years. Dad died 20 years ago and was the only one for her

Yes, keep them on. When my husband left me it was the hardest thing for me to do to remove my rings even though we were divorced.

I think yes of course wear Wedding and Engagement rings as you wish, its still a symbol of love,and lovely to have a constant reminder of a loved one.

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My husband died in an accident over 24 years ago when I was 38. My immediate thought was to take the ring off, the words of “until death us depart”. I had a very strong feeling of not wanting to wear it. I also couldn’t bear to have photos of him out. It was too upsetting. I suffered terribly with the horrendous grief. It took me 3 years to be able to move on. I did what worked for me. There’s no right or wrong way. You have to do what feels right for you in order to survive
Hugs to you xx

My mother wore her wedding ring in the ten years between my father's death and her death. It is her ring that I wear - perhaps she should have been buried in it. The only two times I have taken it off was during the labour and birth of DD1 because my fingers swelled after the epidural and the other time was when I broke my wrist and it had to be cut off because of swelling. I'm a bit superstitious about taking it off. I would definitely continue to wear it if widowhood should strike.

GreenGran78 If you do decide to leave any rings in your will do make your children aware. My grand-father bequeathed his signet ring to my father, this was only declared at the reading of his will - after he had been buried.

Of course you should wear your rings with pride. How rude of her to even comment. Widowed, divorced, single, we can wear what we like on any finger. Or toe!

I couldn't get my wedding ring off over my knuckle now, even if I ever wanted to. I had to have it covered with sticking plaster when I needed an operation.
My MIL had her husband's wedding ring cut in half and made into a pair of hoop earrings after he died. I thought that was a lovely idea.

Do what you want. People should mind their own business!

Same here MawBroon, after 54 years together, (50 married), I would feel naked without them! Do whatever feels right for you Gypsyqueen13, it's a very hard road though isn't it!

Surely you wear your wedding ring – before and after your husband's death – because you want to. It isn't anyone else's business. Do what feels right for you – and that may not always be the same every day.

Someone said the same to me & it really upset me ,if he never existed

I lost my husband 5 years ago and have never taken my wedding ring off, when I go out dressed up I put my engagement and eternity ring on too - I just love them, its never occured to me to not wear a wedding ring.