DH died in a September 2017 a year after being diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer. He was 64, me 62 and we had both retired 2-3 years before.
I see more of my friends than I did, have taken short holidays and become involved in a new charity supporting parents of special children. Like others, to the outsider I am doing fine. Sometimes I am.
Last weekend I was part of a conversation with 2 other people who were talking about their good news of cancer remission. I walked away in tears. How could I not be pleased for them? Direct hit by the ball in the box.
On Wednesday I joined a new walking group and chatted to a chap who I discovered had worked with DH. He told me stories of their work. Then he asked me to pass on his regards. I had to explain DH had died. This time I was not upset ( though he was). So the ball missed the button.
I echo the coming home alone, being the odd number person and having no one to do nothing with. But I also chose new room colours on my own for the first time ever and have mastered the lawnmower almost!
As a friend in a similar situation said to me recently, Do you think they are sitting on a cloud having a nice glass of red and saying how proud they are of us?
And now I am in tears!
How long do care home give you to sell flat
When will this wind ever stop?!