The bit in between (waiting for the funeral) ?

I don't know what to say to help, morethan. But I send you all a huge hug and the hope you can begin to move on. That must have been the hardest day imaginable. I admire your strength. You know we are here if you need us.

Someone will be along with just the right words to comfort you. Take care of yourself and all your lovely family - I know you will.

More than thinking of you and all your family.

No, I don’t have the words either morethan, maybe there aren’t any just now. You’ve been strong and a wonderful support, please think of yourself as well as others. Love and a hug from me.

Cornergran has it exactly right morethan I can't add any more. Love and hugs from me too.

Oh Morethan , I am so, so sorry - I hope that you and your family, your son , their children , your dil’s family will get strength from somewhere, to cope during the next days, weeks, months, years . Thinking of you all

I can say nothing that will help, but I’ll hold you all in my thoughts. Thank you for sharing with us.

Now you'll be able to begin your own grieving process, morethan. Supporting everyone is exhausting when you have to put your own feelings aside for their sakes especially when young children need you.

The funeral is a good day to have behind you. Your 'goodbyes' haven't all been said but now you'll be able to choose when and where you whisper them.

I have not got the right words morethan but please be gentle on yourself.

Your DS and GC will take a long time to adjust and no doubt need you more than ever, but and it is a big but you must rest and find time for you.

Thinking of you all xx

morethan

Why not cut out visits to your home altogether except for the very closest of relatives. As you not actually the mother of the deceased, why is the onus on you to entertain the mourners? Agree to meet people in the garden at their hotel instead and that will cut out one of your worries.

quizqueen

Why not cut out visits to your home altogether except for the very closest of relatives. As you not actually the mother of the deceased, why is the onus on you to entertain the mourners? Agree to meet people in the garden at their hotel instead and that will cut out one of your worries.

The funeral has happened.

Morethan I hope sometime soon you, your son and your grandchildren can find some peace in your lives. The last months have taken their toll and life will not be the same.
But you must gather all that strength you have and start a new future. You are grieving now,
but in time it is important for the children that you once again celebrate their Birthdays, and Christmas and give them permission to be happy again.
Not yet. ........ but you will know when the time is right.
You are wonderful, and have done everything you possibly could. Much love to you all XX

Thinking of your dear daughter-in-law’srelatives too X

Hard to know what to say, but wanted to send love and for you to know that we are all here for you whenever you need us xx

I don’t know what to say either morethan. Just hope that brave little boy knows it’s ok to cry. Perhaps if he’s on his own with you one day. It is so very sad for all of you. I can’t imagine how difficult all this has been. I pray for strength and peace for you all.

I have no advice for you but my sympathy and prays are with you at this sad time

morethan ... thankyou for finding the time to keep us informed.....
I cannot find the words, but others have.
Thinking of your family over this time.