@Rutheleanor
My husband died five years ago after a very long illness so I had had time to prepare myself for his death, as had friends and neighbours. I knew help and support was there if I needed it just as it always had been. Quite honestly, I would have been rather shocked if someone had come round offering food! Perhaps it is different if it is a sudden death.
I think the greatest help was when people were not shy about mentioning his name. In fact we still sometimes laugh about some of the things he said, and wonder what he would have made of today's world - or what I was doing to the house and garden!
My next door neighbour, young enough to be my daughter always gives me a bunch of flowers on the anniversary of his death and I think this is a really kind and thoughtful thing to do.
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴