My husband has died

Your lovely David. Gone far too soon. So sad and I'm so sorry for you all x

I can only reiterate everything others have said.

I wish you all fortitude and strength in the days and months ahead.

I'm so sorry for your loss Kate. You're in shock. My Mum died of an aneurysm very suddenly and it sounds crazy but I kept forgetting and would pick up the phone to ring her and wonder why she wasn't answering. Denial and disbelief are very much a part of grief.

You can still talk to David and will probably find it comforting.

Be kind to yourself and take life gently.

I’m very sorry for your loss Kate. ?

I wondered what on earth I would do. My brother gave me something to bring some kind of structure to my future life so that I wasn’t just floundering about. Life is very different.

My condolences to you and your family Kate. Be gentle with yourself.

Sudden and unexpected bereavement add shock to the pain and grief. You will be expecting him to walk through the door at any moment or sit in his favourite chair. You were together so long, and he must have been a special person to be so loved.
“There is a bridge between the living and the dead, and the bridge is love”?

So sorry Kate. Condolences to you and your family. ?

Kate I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.?

Dear Kate I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family xx

Kate?I'm heart sad for you. 56 was also the age when I was widowed. Absolutely tragic but.... many years later I'm still here and not totally miserable. I have a reasonably happy and fulfilling life though nothing like the one I'd foreseen and hoped for. I have family and friends who are lovely. Cling to yours but don't be a burden. They're suffering too. My very best wishes go out to you. I'm so sorry ?.

My heart goes out to you, Kate8 as you deal with your tragic loss. I hope that in time the beautiful memories you have of such a special man will help to heal the pain and sadness of your grief.

This is a wonderful forum with wisdom and kindness in abundance so I hope you will keep us updated on how you are. The daily “Good Morning” thread is recommended! ?

Oh Kate, you poor thing. My heart really goes out to you

I am so sorry for your loss Kate.Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family?

I am very sorry for your loss Kate8. Be gentle on yourself. You will eventually be able to smile again.

So sorry Kate, what a terrible thing to happen to you.
When you have been with someone for a long time, they just become so much a part of your life, that it’s difficult to imagine how you can go on alone.
But I guess in time you will, be strong for your family, and let them help you.
Kindest regards

So sorry for your loss, sending kindest thoughts to you and your family

? So sorry you are going through this.

Please accept my sincere condolences. He blessed you. With so many memories.

So sorry for your loss Kate
Keep posting if you feel able, there will be lots of support for you on here xx

So sorry Kate8. It is such a shock when this happens and not easy to cope or find support outwith family in these times of pandemic. My husband is 65 - he had a bad stroke - vertebral artery dissection in February. I had to leave him in AE as was not allowed in. He got home in 2 days then had another and I had to call paramedics - I could not go with him in ambulance but the 2 lovely paramedics let me say goodbye in the ambulance. He never cries but he did then and was heartbreaking. We thought that was it. We would never see each other again. My 3 children came to support me then DGC x 3 were brought later and TBH restrictions went out the window. DH survived and was in hospital for 8 days when I could not see him only pass clean laundry to nurses. He had iPad and could get messages and FaceTime but was upset doing that as he was the strong one and hates being weaker now. He has survived with deficits but I went through such grief when the news was not great and grief for our DGC 7, 4 and 3 that Papa may not be there or different, and also trying to support my DC and them me. I totally understand what you and your family are going through and I am in tears thinking about you all but you have a loving family and you will be there for each other - your grandchildren will get you through this but it is ok to feel numb and it is ok to feel sad, and it is ok to feel angry at everything and it is ok to feel overwhelmed at all there is to do. I have found it helps me and my children if I delegate things to them to do. My experience of death is that there is a lot to do, forms to fill in, things to arrange which keeps you going then wham, afterwards is when it really hits home. Be kind to yourself, accept help and let yourself grieve. My son gave me a diary to write my feelings in - never did this before but I am doing it and it helps - I don't hide what I am feeling. Over the weeks I can see signs of me feeling better now interspersed with the bad low horrible feelings. I don't know if this would help you but it has me. I am so sorry Kate x

I'm so sorry for your loss.

So sorry to hear of your loss Kate , know only too well how you feel as I’d lost my long term partner just over year ago and it’s still very raw . You have found a good place here as gransnet are very kind and understanding. ?

I am so sorry, Kate8. Life can be very cruel. I hope you can find support amongst what sounds a lovely family.

Kate8 it must have taken courage to come on here, but I think everyone will be thinking of you now. Many on GN have been bereaved, some very recently, and they will want to give you all the support they can. Don't hesitate to reach out when the waves of grief are washing over you, or indeed if you just want a chat.

Hope your family are with you Kate. There's plenty of us here to talk to.