So sorry Kate8. It is such a shock when this happens and not easy to cope or find support outwith family in these times of pandemic. My husband is 65 - he had a bad stroke - vertebral artery dissection in February. I had to leave him in AE as was not allowed in. He got home in 2 days then had another and I had to call paramedics - I could not go with him in ambulance but the 2 lovely paramedics let me say goodbye in the ambulance. He never cries but he did then and was heartbreaking. We thought that was it. We would never see each other again. My 3 children came to support me then DGC x 3 were brought later and TBH restrictions went out the window. DH survived and was in hospital for 8 days when I could not see him only pass clean laundry to nurses. He had iPad and could get messages and FaceTime but was upset doing that as he was the strong one and hates being weaker now. He has survived with deficits but I went through such grief when the news was not great and grief for our DGC 7, 4 and 3 that Papa may not be there or different, and also trying to support my DC and them me. I totally understand what you and your family are going through and I am in tears thinking about you all but you have a loving family and you will be there for each other - your grandchildren will get you through this but it is ok to feel numb and it is ok to feel sad, and it is ok to feel angry at everything and it is ok to feel overwhelmed at all there is to do. I have found it helps me and my children if I delegate things to them to do. My experience of death is that there is a lot to do, forms to fill in, things to arrange which keeps you going then wham, afterwards is when it really hits home. Be kind to yourself, accept help and let yourself grieve. My son gave me a diary to write my feelings in - never did this before but I am doing it and it helps - I don't hide what I am feeling. Over the weeks I can see signs of me feeling better now interspersed with the bad low horrible feelings. I don't know if this would help you but it has me. I am so sorry Kate x