I think everybody has different needs after they're bereaved, but I thought it might be helpful if some of us shared things that we found helpful in the days and weeks following the death of a loved one.
I have just lost my mother and so many friends have contacted me saying to let them know when I'm ready to meet for coffee, or to ring them any time I feel like it, or that we'll meet up when things quiten down.
It's really kind of them and I know they're trying to give me space and not intrude. But the days and weeks immediately after the funeral (I live in Ireland where the funeral is held within a few days of the death) are very hard and lonely. I realise now that it's not intrusive to say to a friend "would you like to meet up for coffee tomorrow. If you don't feel like it I'll understand but if you'd like to get out of the house for a while I would love to meet you'.
When you're feeling a bit raw and vulnerable you can also feel a bit over sensitive and not that confident about contacting people yourself in case you seem 'needy'.
It's just something I've learned in recent days, and won't be afraid in future to suggest a day and time to a bereaved friend while making it very clear no offence will be taken if they just don't feel like it.
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