Hi I’m new on here, my post is quite complex, so here’s a brief synopsis:
5 years ago our daughter and 20 month old granddaughter, left her abusive husband and
moved into my husband’s and my family home. She had suffered emotional and financial abuse, it did affect her, counselling helped. Family court was difficult but it was resolved.
4 years ago my husband diagnosed stage 4 cancer.
2 years 6 months ago we all relocated to South Devon and bought a house together, she owns 33%.
My husband’s condition worsened, I cared for him and he sadly passed away at home 15 weeks ago.
I know I’m grieving and I understand only time will help me, I am not asking for help on that.
My daughter who is 41, started seeing a 52 year old, divorced with 2 grown up kids, recently she wants more commitment, he doesn’t, he’s planning on going travelling. That’s his choice, nothing wrong with it, he said from the start he didn’t want more. She hopes he’ll change his mind.
I see she’s falling into the same pattern of behaviour she did with her abusive ex husband, I get it, she’s used to being treated as second best. She is a lovely woman but unrealistic about her financial situation and sometimes makes poor choices.
I know no one near here, I am taking steps to volunteer and know in time, I’ll make new friends.
I plan on selling, this house is too big, and the costs of running it are too high.
I want to move to a location where there is more community, so we can all interact and make connections to people, we all need more around us, there is nothing but a school here. I know we won’t necessarily agree on location, we have different needs, but she needs my child care and doesn’t have sufficient funds for the house she thinks she needs, she is unrealistic.
I’m trying to make sensible, necessary choices at a time when we’re all grieving, I can do that but I can’t handle anymore emotional fallout from my lovely daughter’s life. At 70, after being married for nearly 48 years, I’m having to do all this alone. Not sure what advice anyone can offer.
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