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My husbands funeral tomorrow how will I cope?

(134 Posts)
1summer Wed 31-Aug-22 20:56:58

Sorry to trouble you but its my husbands funeral tomorrow and I am having a blip! I have organised everything with my children and they keep saying it will be a wonderful celebration of his life. They did say they would stay with me tonight but said I would be fine but I am not. I feel sick and shaky thinking I can’t go through with it, it seems so final.
Visitors today tell me that after tomorrow I can start grieving I can start a journey of recovery. I want to shout no no no, I don’t want to be on this journey and will never recover.
I almost feel like running away and not going tomorrow but I won’t I have to do this for my family.
I just want him back.

Nannagarra Thu 01-Sep-22 20:47:01

Take it one step at a time, dear Isummer. Some days will feel like two steps back but you’ll get there. You will.

Alypoole Thu 01-Sep-22 20:34:17

Bless you. You sound very brave but you're probably shouting 'No I'm not'
I'll be thinking of you x

ixion Thu 01-Sep-22 20:28:55

I have been thinking about you and your family on this very sad day.
I send you ? and best wishes for the next part of your difficult journey.

henetha Thu 01-Sep-22 12:36:04

So sad for you. Sending you heartfelt sympathy. May you find strength.

Erica23 Thu 01-Sep-22 12:34:39

So so sorry. Thinking about you. Flowers

SuzieHi Thu 01-Sep-22 12:22:29

A very sad time for you. Sorry to hear of your distress. As others have said, take each day at a time, and let family and friends comfort and help you.

Blossoming Thu 01-Sep-22 12:14:51

So sorry for your loss flowers

Notyetagran46 Thu 01-Sep-22 12:08:13

I’m sorry for your loss. I understand totally how you feel.
Someone who had lost her husband told me I’d get through the funeral without too many tears, and with my sons beside me I managed.
As for the gathering after the funeral I acted as if my husband was still in the room with me and I chatted to all friends and family. When my husband and I used to socialise we often spent most of the time circulating without each other.
To be honest I found the time after the funeral the hardest part. That’s when I really missed him. I still do but after four years it has got easier.

paddyann54 Thu 01-Sep-22 11:23:59

Hoping you have the strength to see you through not just today but the days to come .Its my worst nightmare losing my OH .With the support of those who love you and your husband I hope it all goes as well as these things can

tanith Thu 01-Sep-22 11:22:36

My thoughts are with you today Isummer ?

Nana56 Thu 01-Sep-22 11:17:45

I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs flowers

Esmay Thu 01-Sep-22 11:15:23

I'm so sorry for your loss .

Sending you love and prayers .

Hithere Thu 01-Sep-22 11:06:12

Thinking of you today!

Harris27 Thu 01-Sep-22 10:58:22

So sorry for your loss. You will find the strength to do this. We all dread this day and we don’t know how we,ll cope but you will and he has left you your lovely children don’t say your ok when your not. Let them help. Sending you hugs and love.

AGAA4 Thu 01-Sep-22 10:48:31

So sorry Isummer. Many of us have been through this and understand ?

mamaa Thu 01-Sep-22 10:46:46

flowers and virtual hugs for today. So sorry to hear your sad news. xx

Doodle Thu 01-Sep-22 10:39:54

Another one here thinking of you 1summer and your family on this sad and difficult day flowers

Sar53 Thu 01-Sep-22 10:04:41

Thinking of you today ISummer, with a big virtual hug and lots of love xxx

dragonfly46 Thu 01-Sep-22 09:41:10

Thinking of you today ISummer

cheryl1972 Thu 01-Sep-22 09:36:50

So sorry to hear of your loss , and sending you love on this most difficult of days

RichmondPark1 Thu 01-Sep-22 09:33:33

Thinking of you today 1summer and sending love. Your family and friends will be a huge comfort and strength to you today I am sure.

ixion Thu 01-Sep-22 09:32:46

Still thinking of you, 1summer , on this most difficult day.
We are here, whenever you need us.
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Yammy Thu 01-Sep-22 09:07:35

So sorry for your loss no one can know how you feel today unless they have been through it themselves.
With the help of your family, you will get through it.flowers

Soroptimum Thu 01-Sep-22 09:06:16

Sending hugs to you. No need to be brave. Just be. flowers

Doodledog Thu 01-Sep-22 09:04:27

It will be a long day, but just take it one minute at a time. If you have a wobble, your children will help you, and remember that grans everywhere are with you in spirit.

Take care flowers.