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My husbands funeral tomorrow how will I cope?

(134 Posts)
1summer Wed 31-Aug-22 20:56:58

Sorry to trouble you but its my husbands funeral tomorrow and I am having a blip! I have organised everything with my children and they keep saying it will be a wonderful celebration of his life. They did say they would stay with me tonight but said I would be fine but I am not. I feel sick and shaky thinking I can’t go through with it, it seems so final.
Visitors today tell me that after tomorrow I can start grieving I can start a journey of recovery. I want to shout no no no, I don’t want to be on this journey and will never recover.
I almost feel like running away and not going tomorrow but I won’t I have to do this for my family.
I just want him back.

Namsnanny Thu 01-Sept-22 00:21:35

I too cant add to the above posts. I'm sorry for your loss and I will be thinking of you flowers

timetogo2016 Thu 01-Sept-22 00:02:32

I can`t add to what has already been posted 1summer.
God bless.

GrannySomerset Wed 31-Aug-22 23:59:44

Will be thinking of you tomorrow as you tread this difficult and lonely path. For me, knowing that we had truly celebrated the person DH really was gave me comfort, though seven months later I still want him back in his delightful prime. There is no right way to feel or to behave but you will survive - somehow.

V3ra Wed 31-Aug-22 23:55:54

Isummer your husband will be with you in your heart forever, love never dies.
Wishing you a peaceful day tomorrow xx

Georgesgran Wed 31-Aug-22 23:46:52

Such a lot of kind words. I can add no more. It’s the Club we are thrown into, but don’t want to join. My DH died last year during Covid, so a very small funeral but I am still surprised when I meet someone who says they were outside the Crematorium to see him arrive. I was in such a ‘fog’ that the whole day just seemed surreal. I think it was a few days afterwards when reality started to dawn.
I’m sure you’ll get through tomorrow with the support of your family and friends. ?

LauraNorderr Wed 31-Aug-22 23:25:21

1summer flowers

silverlining48 Wed 31-Aug-22 23:22:32

1summer I hope you get some sleep tonight and that tomorrow you have friends and family to support you.
Take things a day at a time. flowers

Caro6699 Wed 31-Aug-22 23:14:26

Isummer.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Love and hugs for tonight and tomorrow. You will have the love and support of your family and friends to help you through this.

Shelflife Wed 31-Aug-22 23:14:16

Isummer, your post has really touched me , I am so sorry your lovely husband has died. Your GN friends will be thinking about you tomorrow, you will get through the funeral tomorrow with the support of your family. ?? for you.

GrandmasueUK Wed 31-Aug-22 23:14:15

Isummer so very sorry for your loss. You will have a lot of support from family and friends tomorrow and from people on GN. Please let people help if you need it. Look after yourself. Wishing you strength and peace for tomorrow thanks

Spinnaker Wed 31-Aug-22 23:01:21

So very sorry for your loss flowers

cornergran Wed 31-Aug-22 22:50:30

You’ll be in my thoughts tomorrow. I’m so sorry

Joane123 Wed 31-Aug-22 22:30:10

Summer sending you love and strength for tomorrow flowers

Ro60 Wed 31-Aug-22 22:27:32

? Yes, you're right - the things we do for others - the ones that are left..
In one sense, we never get over it, but eventually the pain fades but not all the sadness - or maybe I haven't waited long enough.
Thinking of you.

Maggiemaybe Wed 31-Aug-22 22:26:28

I'm so sorry for your loss, 1Summer. We will all be thinking of you tomorrow. flowers

VioletSky Wed 31-Aug-22 22:23:49

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice but I hope your journey grows smoother and you are well supported by loved ones

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 31-Aug-22 22:16:39

Isummer ? and hugs for tomorrow. You will get through it and your family will be by your side.

Blinko Wed 31-Aug-22 22:14:46

Summer flowers

fiorentina51 Wed 31-Aug-22 22:13:05

My thoughts are with you. I was in your situation 4 months ago.
Somehow you will manage to get through the day. I hope the support of family, friends and the kindness of complete strangers will help you not just tomorrow but also through coming months.
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Nannagarra Wed 31-Aug-22 22:12:19

Your feelings are perfectly normal. I felt the same when my mum died.
Reach out to family, friends and us on GN. We’re here for you 24/7.

aggie Wed 31-Aug-22 22:11:28

So sorry ! You will get through tomorrow, we have to it’s so hard , but we get strength we didn’t know you had , I found I couldn’t cry , go with what you feel , I cry now years later

Auntieflo Wed 31-Aug-22 22:08:57

So sorry to hear of your loss Isummer, I will hold you in my heart tomorrow.

Razzamatazz Wed 31-Aug-22 22:05:49

So very sorry your husband has died. My husband died unexpectedly six years ago, and I also felt like running away the night before the funeral. Thinking of you tomorrow.

SueDonim Wed 31-Aug-22 21:57:07

1summer I’m so sorry to read of your sad loss. No words of wisdom from me, others are better at that, but I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow. flowers

Beautful Wed 31-Aug-22 21:52:48

So sorry for your loss

You will get through it. I lost my lovely husband suddenly 6 years ago ... if you want to cry cry , if you want to laugh laugh ... I still cry about my husband ... I did this week ... no way is the right way to grieve, every one grieves in different ways ... possibly hit you more after your husbands funeral ... like some have said ... contact your children not to late to ask someone to come & stay with you ... also if you need help ask for it

I pray everything goes well tomorrow ... God bless