Two deaths in a month

So sorry to hear your sad news Janburry. I hope you have people around to support you at this very difficult time.

I'm so sorry for your losses. Either one of those is hard to bear but both at once, that's so much to deal with.

So very sorry to hear your sad news Janberry

Oh Janburry! My heart goes out to you. That is so much for you to bear. I sincerely hope the concern shown for you on GN goes some way to comfort you . I am thinking of you and your family - here's a big hug for you (((( )))).

Oh Janburry, how horrible for you and your family, what a hard burden to bear. Sending a big hug, and letting you know you can keep coming here for company and some support.

There really are no words Janburry. I'm deeply sorry for your loss and pain. Love and prayers for you and your family.

Janburry no words can express how sorry I feel for your losses. Unfortunately life is not fair and the older I get the more I feel it. Losing the other half of yourself is bad enough but to lose a child so soon after is devastating and so young. I don't know the pain of losing a child but do now the pain of losing a husband .

What gives me comfort and may give you is talk out loud to them both everyday sounds mad but it works . I expected the sense of over whelming grieve but what shocked me was the anger and rage I felt and felt wicked feeling like it. But if you feel this it's part of grieving and you have a lot to feel angry and rage about don't fight it as it makes the pain worse I learnt that by bitter experience. What ever emotion you feel is right for you. If you want to cry,scream,shout ,hit a pillow do it don't hold it in as it will only make it worse.

I know there are charities to help young children cope with the death of a parent they may be able to help your son in law with your grandchildren.

In my experience grief never dies nor does love. Grief you learn to cope with . Your daughter's life being cut short is not fair but your grandchildren will need you . But let your son in law tell you what he and they need and when .

Don't know what else to say. My husband died aged 47 getting towards 19 years ago now and have found the grief worse as the years go by but cope.

Grief is as individual as people. What your son in law and grandchildren feel is different from your grief.

Take things at your own pace and get though each day the best way you can . ??

I’m so sorry Janburry. I don’t know what else to say, it’s just so very sad

Thank you everyone for your kind comforting words

Oh Janburry how awful for you! Such a lot to come to terms with. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family

This is so sad and unfair but sadly life just is not fair. Can I just add a bit of advice regarding you DGS please. I lost my father suddenly at a young age though a bit older than this poor boy . I had not realised that my father had been unwell for some time but I went to bed one night and the next morning he was gone . My point is that I became obsessed thinking that the same could happen to my mother . I had no siblings so there was just the two of us left. She had to work hard and would fall asleep in the evenings and I would watch her breathing in case anything happened to her. Please assure this boy that these losses were because his mother and grand father had really been sick and assure him that you and his dad are healthy and fine . I hope this is useful .

You have all been through so much and I send warm thoughts your way.

Such sad times for you. I am so sorry.

It's the unthinkable, a child going so young.
My deepest condolences, Janburry.

Janburry so very sorry. Life is so unfair. Such a lot for you to bear.
Sending hugs. You are in my prayers. ?