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I am a widow

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Iam64 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:24:24

My husband was diagnosed exactly 6 months before, with stage 4 metastasised cancer exactly six months before he died. I was with him along with our daughters, throughout the last week. This gave us all some comfort.
In the endless meetings with officials I’m still introducing myself as ‘his wife’. I still feel like his wife ?

Iam64 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:27:20

He died on Saturday. Apologies for unclear message, my brain isn’t on top of its game

silverlining48 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:28:15

I am64
I am so sorry to hear that your husband has died and am thinking of you and your family and yes, you are still his wife. Gentle hug from me. flowers

FannyCornforth Wed 12-Oct-22 08:30:21

Oh Iam64 I’m so shocked, even though I knew he was very ill.
I’m so, so sorry thanks ♥️ Sending my love x

Joane123 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:34:27

Iam64 I am so sorry to read your post, I had noticed you hadn't posted for a while.
Love to you all, take care flowers

nanaK54 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:36:55

Sending kindest thoughts to you flowers

Doodledog Wed 12-Oct-22 08:44:46

Oh, I am so sorry. There really are no words.

Of course you are still his wife though.

You must be reeling. If there is anything I can do (and I’m sure that applies to most on here) you only have to say. I have no idea what we can do, other than lend an ear, but you never know.

Take care, and let your daughters help as much as they can, too.

Urmstongran Wed 12-Oct-22 08:47:47

Oh Iam64 you must be feeling very raw.
Please accept my sincere condolences for you and your family at this very sad time.

GrannySomerset Wed 12-Oct-22 08:53:48

Nine months into widowhood I still regard myself as P’s wife and talk about we and us. I doubt it this will ever change. My sympathy, Iam. Hope you are being well supported.

JaneJudge Wed 12-Oct-22 08:54:50

I'm sorry sad flowers

Marydoll Wed 12-Oct-22 08:59:25

Iam, I had noted your absence. I am so sorry to hear your devasting news. My deepest condolences. ?

I found this poem comforting, when my mum died.

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place,
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, ‘Peace be thine’.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home

kittylester Wed 12-Oct-22 09:00:27

Oh, iam, I am so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of love and gentle hugs.

Of course you are his wife

baubles Wed 12-Oct-22 09:02:28

My sincere condolences to you and your family Iam. ?

dustyangel Wed 12-Oct-22 09:03:05

I’m so very sorry *Iam. I’ve been wondering where you were.
I send my love and condolences to you and your family. ?

Redhead56 Wed 12-Oct-22 09:03:25

Iam64 my sympathies for you and your family at this very difficult time. You were all able to be with your DH in the last week that most certainly would give you comfort. You are his wife and always will be and your memories of your DH will be with you forever?

Nannagarra Wed 12-Oct-22 09:08:17

Deepest sympathy Iam64. ?

Parsley3 Wed 12-Oct-22 09:08:21

My sincere condolences, Iam64. thanks

Shelflife Wed 12-Oct-22 09:14:19

So sorry to learn this , my thoughts are with you and your family.

nandad Wed 12-Oct-22 09:14:47

Deepest sympathies on your loss. You are, and always will be, his wife.

MawtheMerrier Wed 12-Oct-22 09:17:07

You know you have my sincerest sympathy
I too loved that poem Marydoll , it “spoke “to me and of Paw’s fight too to the end.
Iam64 - I hate the word “widow” and you are brave to use it, but for me, we are still their wife and always will be.
And to live in the hearts of those we love, is not to die.

nadateturbe Wed 12-Oct-22 09:17:34

Deepest sympathy Iam64. ?

Pittcity Wed 12-Oct-22 09:20:36

Sending love Iam64

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 12-Oct-22 09:21:57

My sympathies to you and yours Iam64

Grandmadinosaur Wed 12-Oct-22 09:22:04

Sending deepest condolences on your sad loss. Yes you are his wife and always will be. ?

EkwaNimitee Wed 12-Oct-22 09:25:11

I am so sorry to read this Iam64. You will always be his wife.