I am a widow

It’s afraid not, Iam

Getting rid of your husband's things is hard but it also brings back memories of when he got them. But my husband didn't want me to hold on to his things I only kept his gardening tools as I would need them ..He had boxes of scouting magazines but the scout association didn't want them nor did charities so they went into the recycling . I was told they where to old for today's scouts this was 20 years ago. He had been collecting them since he was 13 until he was 30. Even though he had stopped being a venture scout leader when he was 25 he still liked the magazines. Took me 8 months before I could even look at my husband's clothes and with my daughter's help sent them to cancer charity shop.

My dad wanted every gone within a week after he died so I did. Mom was very upset but we followed his wishes.

Still have my husband's ashes thought my daughter with sprinkle us together. Like my brother and me did with our parents by a hut they used to picnic in by the the river Servern.Some went on the bank and some fell into the water. Wasn't supposed to do it really but it's what they wanted .

Wasn't until I moved house and was clearing out I found my husband's hospital records and diagnosis which was upsetting as I thought it had gotten rid of them. I let go of the sympathy cards and letters as I hadn't read them since receiving them and knew I would never read them again.

It's hard letting go as I felt I was letting him go all over again . But it had to be done . There is so much paperwork and other things to do plus grieving it can all be overwhelming at times. Even though my daughter filled in the forms for no bunf I was still receiving stuff for 5 years. So used to write he died and put it back in the post box. Blunt I know but had a lot of other family things to deal with at the time.

Your husband's would be proud of you all .

Yes, I eventually put stuff back in the post Return to Sender- deceased , and it seems to have worked at long last.
I found some Scouting stuff too, Whiff. The local GSM kindly took them with ideas for using in the Gang Show as they were too out of date for current leaders.
The majority of stuff has gone but I still have quite a bit to sort, including things I am keeping. It keeps me busy.