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I am a widow

(181 Posts)
Iam64 Wed 12-Oct-22 08:24:24

My husband was diagnosed exactly 6 months before, with stage 4 metastasised cancer exactly six months before he died. I was with him along with our daughters, throughout the last week. This gave us all some comfort.
In the endless meetings with officials I’m still introducing myself as ‘his wife’. I still feel like his wife ?

V3ra Wed 12-Oct-22 10:56:22

Such sad news.
Yes you are right to introduce yourself as your husband's wife, his death doesn't change that relationship.

Callistemon21 Wed 12-Oct-22 10:57:02

Iam64

I'm so very sorry to hear of the loss of your husband and send my condolences to you and your family flowers

You will always be your dear husband's wife just as your daughters will always be his daughters, nothing ever changes that.

bikergran Wed 12-Oct-22 11:01:55

As other have said, you will " always" be your late husbands wife, no one can take that away from you. Take care.

Iam64 Wed 12-Oct-22 11:09:29

Thank you everyone for your kind gentle words.
You’re right of course, I’ve been his wife for almost forty years and I will remain so
It’s comforting to know there is understanding and strength from you lovely women

Lathyrus Wed 12-Oct-22 13:29:29

Please accept my condolences. ? This is an unreal time when all sorts of thoughts go through your head.

You will always be his wife, just as I always say “my husband” even though he died many, many years ago. It defines our relationship for people for people who did not know him.

Doodle Wed 12-Oct-22 13:32:53

So sorry Iam . Yes you will always be his wife. So sorry for your loss for you and your daughters. ?

Luckygirl3 Wed 12-Oct-22 13:37:01

forum.way-up.co.uk/index.php

This is a forum for those who have been bereaved - it organises meet-ups and holidays but above all has a forum much like Gransnet, where you can talk with people who really do understand.

Might be worth thinking about this for the future.

I am sending love and support to you x

crazyH Wed 12-Oct-22 13:37:18

iam - so sorry for your loss. Ofcourse you are his wife and will always be that - his wife flowers

fiorentina51 Wed 12-Oct-22 13:37:19

My deepest sympathy. I'm 6 months into widowhood, hate the title of widow too. I'm my husband's wife.
Take care. Xx?

sharon103 Wed 12-Oct-22 13:38:06

My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family flowers

downtoearth Wed 12-Oct-22 13:39:07

Sorry for your lossIam sending you a hugflowers

Shinamae Wed 12-Oct-22 13:46:27

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss…..????

Marmight Wed 12-Oct-22 13:46:36

My condolences. You are and always will be his wife and he your husband. I am 10 years into this unwanted journey.

DaisyAnne Wed 12-Oct-22 13:52:39

Iam, I'm so sorry to hear your news. As others have said, you are still your husband's wife. Widowed is just a word that explains things to others.

When someone is no longer here it can feel quite weird at times, but that's okay, it probably should. I'm sending you gentle vibes to wrap you in care.

Doodledog Wed 12-Oct-22 14:04:05

As others have said, you are still your husband's wife. Widowed is just a word that explains things to others.
That's a lovely way to look at things, and makes perfect sense.

ixion Wed 12-Oct-22 14:47:41

Iam, I am so very sorry for your sadness. ?

SunshineSally Wed 12-Oct-22 14:55:41

Iam64 I am so sorry to hear this. Sending heartfelt ((hugs)) to you. Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes We are all here for you xx ?xx

Chrissielou Wed 12-Oct-22 19:03:00

You will always be his wife, and he your husband, for always.
I'm so sorry for your loss.

ixion Wed 12-Oct-22 19:04:23

Iam64, I have PMed you.
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Hels001 Wed 12-Oct-22 19:11:06

So sorry to hear this news. Sending love and condolences. As others have said you'll always be his wife.flowers

merlotgran Wed 12-Oct-22 19:15:12

I'm very sorry to hear of your sad loss, Iam

gillgran Wed 12-Oct-22 19:19:51

My condolences to you & your family Iam64. flowers

Kim19 Wed 12-Oct-22 19:24:31

Iam, you are his wife. You will always be his wife. I am SO sad for you. Look after yourself. ?

Greenfinch Wed 12-Oct-22 19:24:43

Thinking of you at this sad time Iam64.

LauraNorderr Wed 12-Oct-22 19:29:08

I’m so sorry to hear such sad news Iam64. You will always be his wife of course, just as he will always be your husband and Dad to your daughters.
Sending you a warm hug.