Sudden death of my granddaughter

My heart goes out to you nansypansy. So much grief for one family to suffer. 💐
As yet, being given no reason will understandably cause added grief for your DD. Hopefully your DD can be persuaded to speak to her GP who will know the best route to help your DD through this heartbreaking loss she is trying to cope with.
Look after yourself too as you too will be grieving but I understand your DD is your main priority to support in any way you can. x

You are often in my thoughts Baggs x

Condolences to you and your family. I hope you all find peace eventually

What a terrible tragedy for you all. Your daughter will be so wound up in her own grief that she will not be focusing on anything else and no one will be able to get near her thoughts at the moment. Professional help is out there but she must work through this difficult road on her own at the moment with a careful eye kept on her. My Mum lost a son when he was 30yrs old and was never the same woman again. Thoughts and big extra hugs are on the way for you all.x

I'm so sorry Nansypansy my condolences to you and your family. Your daughter needs your love and support more than ever and that must be so hard when you are grieving as well. Just be there for her and let her talk about things, counselling or a support group may help when she is a little further down the road.

I am so sorry. Words simply aren’t enough.

So very sorry for your loss.
Sending hugs

I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what she is going through. Try and get her to see her doctor or a counsellor her grief must be immense. So sorry for you sending you hugs.

I am so sorry. You must all till be in shock at the moment with the suddenness of the loss of your granddaughter. I think it is a bit soon for counselling, bereavement counsellors advise after 6 months as it's hard to marshal your thoughts beforehand. However do remember the Samaritans are always there to listen and they are there not just for your daughter but for you too with your worry about her. Tel 116 123, 24/7, 365 days a year.

I am so sorry to read of the tragic losses your family have had to bear. Life can be so cruel. I know how such tragedies can scar families for a very long time, if not forever. I can only offer my sincere condolences and hold you in my thoughts

So very sorry to hear this tragic news. My thoughts are with your family. How unfair life is sometimes.

I’m so very sorry to hear this. I have no words except to say I am thinking of you and your family.

So sorry to hear this Nansypansy You are all probably still in shock as the loss of your DGD is still very recent. Sometimes antidepressants/ sleeping tablets/counselling all have their place and can really help but as someone else has said they might just mask all the grief/pain etc which sadly has to be worked through. Support and love each other, cry together, smile together when you can. I hope you can get some answers soon. The Sue Ryder Charity is also another source of support. www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/online-bereavement-support

Baggs💞

Sincere condolences Nansypansy, I think counselling would be a help to your daughter and the organisation in Dickens’ post sounds like a good place to start.

Nansypansy I have no advice but I’m just terribly sorry to hear about both these tragedies in your family. So sorry

This is utterly devastating for your family. I wonder whether you could explain to your daughter that this has made you realise that you need some help via counselling yourself and would she come with you? You seem a wonderful Mum and maybe she and you could benefit together and deepen further your evident closeness.

Nansypansy, my deepest condolences on this loss in your fsmily. But it is barely 6 weeks since your DGD death and it is to be expected that all your family are as deep in grief as you are.

My sister died suddenly in her 40s, Both our parents were alive and i saw my parents grief at first hand. For all of us it was months and months, before we got over that first stage of raw grief. I understand how much you want to help, but probably the best you can do at the moment is just be a shoulder to cry on.

The last thing we wanted in the first six months was people trying to offer us consolation. I needed at times to quite literally roar my grief out. So do not look for ways of consoling your daughter and her family, just let them know that with you they can let their grief rip, that you are always there to listen, to be silent, always have endless packs of tissues at hand, and tea, and coffee, and biscuits.

Each of them, in their own way will find their own way out and finally will be able to lift their heads and see the sun again. If in the autumn any of them are stilldeep in grief, then is the time to suggest outside help.

My son died when he was 34 and I would agree with every word you wrote M0nica. This was nearly 5 years ago and I find this comforting these days

“The best way I can describe grieving over a child as the years go by is to say it’s similar to carrying a stone in your pocket.

When you walk, the stone brushes against your skin. You feel it. You always feel it. But depending on the way you stand or the way your body moves, the smooth edges might barely graze your body.

Sometimes you lean the wrong way or you turn too quickly and a sharp edge pokes you. Your eyes water and you rub your wound but you have to keep going because not everyone knows about your stone or if they do, they don’t realize it can still bring this much pain.

There are days you are simply happy now, smiling comes easy and you laugh without thinking. You slap your leg during that laughter and you feel your stone and aren’t sure whether you should be laughing still. The stone still hurts.

Once in a while you can’t take your hand off that stone. You run it over your fingers and roll it in your palm and are so preoccupied by it’s weight, you forget things like your car keys and home address. You try to leave it alone but you just can’t. You want to take a nap but it’s been so many years since you’ve called in “sad” you’re not sure anyone would understand anymore or if they ever did.

But most days you can take your hand in and out of your pocket, feel your stone and even smile at its unwavering presence. You’ve accepted this stone as your own, crossing your hands over it, saying “mine” as children do.

"You rest more peacefully than you once did, you’ve learned to move forward the best you can. Some days you want to show the world what a beautiful memory you’re holding. But most days you twirl it through your fingers, smile and look to the sky. You squeeze your hands together and hope you are living in a way that honors the missing piece you carry, until your arms are full again"

I am so very sorry, thinking of you and your family.

Such lovely, moving words, pandapatch. Thank you. I hope it’s now ‘most days’ for you. 💐

My sincere condolences to you and your family. What sad news.

So sad to read this. How terrible for everyone.

Grandparents grieve twice; once for the grandchild and again for their own child’s pain. Sending gentle hugs.

Sad but true panda patch. So very sorry about your son. It’s a hard road to travel.

My deepest sympathy to you all xxx

Beautiful words pandapatch

Heartfelt condolences to all who have lost a child.
I hope op's family can stay close to each other sharing and easing each other's pain.

One day at a time.

Wishing healing for all of you 💐

I am very sad and sorry to read about your loss, particularly on the one day of the year that is supposed to be all about celebrating and family.

Deepest sympathy to you all