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Pure Cremations

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Moneyboss123 Mon 13-Feb-23 00:39:53

Further to my post 'loss of my mum'. She'd arranged and paid for a Pure Cremation ( there are other companies offering the same type of service) . Knowing what i know now, I would have tried to talk her out of it. I have found not having a funeral really distressing. She was taken from her house and cremated without anyone present. Although my siblings and I got together to remember her, it wasn't the same as a funeral with all her family and friends there.

Barmeyoldbat Thu 08-Feb-24 14:26:54

I used this for my daughter, mainly because, one I was physically and mentally exhausted and the thought of contacting everyone and arranging it wasn’t something I felt I could do,. Also my daughter lived a fair distance from most people who would attend. So instead we had a quiet close family gathering to intern the ashes, we had a short service and I felt totally at peace and relaxed afterwards. I, nor my immediate family have any regrets

Mt61 Sun 27-Oct-24 21:58:21

I’ve just witnessed some paperwork for a friend who’s arranged this- take the body away & give back the ashes £1500.

NanaClaire38 Sat 07-Jun-25 19:27:26

Honestly, it's her choice: if she want's to have a cremation, she should. I know that in many cultures, that's the standard practice (my Hindu friend, for example). Since I'm Catholic, I have chosen to be buried next to my husband when I die, but she should be able to have a cremation.

Madmeg Sat 07-Jun-25 23:31:31

We pre-paid our funerals years ago, it didn't cost a lot then.

DH is more insistent that me despite scoffing at religion all his life. My DM was a regular churchgoer (RC) so that is what we had. Her long-term best friend attended and was very chirpy but the following day she passed away. She would obviously not have been able to attend a later wake.

My aunt died abt 15 years ago. Her youngest daughter was estranged, but I persuaded her to come. Bridges were built and we all attended her own funeral 10 years later. Her DH was so relieved.

lemsip Sat 07-Jun-25 23:39:42

NanaClaire38

wherever or however did you find this thread started in Feb 2023??

WithNobsOnIt Mon 04-Aug-25 07:22:59

Toetoe

Due to family issues I have made this decision , I had a funeral planned but my adult kids don't speak its been years . I decided I didn't want a funeral with a broken family avoiding each other so I've arranged a direct cremation. They can do what they want or not afterwards

I have done the same thing.

At least l.know that l have taken care of myself and wont be relying on anybody else.

sassenach512 Mon 04-Aug-25 10:29:11

But isn't it nice to see a lot of the names who don't post anymore Lemsip? I'm thinking GSM in particular, I miss her sensible, helpful posts sad