Thank you for your kindness Caleo. Unfortunately my sister has had over forty years of issues and causing severe pain to members of her family, including my mother and father when she cut them off for seven years many years ago, and she prevented my niece and nephews from seeing their grandparents. My mother had certain qualities that were sometimes difficult to deal with, but she did not deserve that treatment. My sister is alcoholic and has had a lot of treatment through the mental health hospital in her area, and she did seem to improve for a while. After her husband died I tried to support her and I did. My husband sorted out a whole lot of things for her and I arranged several holidays and visits and all sorts of things, but she gradually fell back into form and started to be extremely nasty and unkind. It’s a long story with a long history. I did my best and all her children said as much, especially given previous behaviours. She frequently refused to speak to mum in her final years and this upset mum. Eventually after a few months she’d be in touch again. I finally snapped after she told me that if mum died during Covid, that mum would die of isolation not Covid. This was to me because mum lived near me and sister didn’t. We did everything to keep mum safe during Covid, I won’t list it all here. After this I had little to do with my sister, but despite this I hosted her when mum was dying and later for the funeral. She was obstructive about funeral arrangements and it was difficult. I even gave her money because she had none for train fares. The final straw came with allegations of theft and allegations of my being obstructive over mum’s estate. Even our solicitor called her ‘a tedious woman.’ She has nothing to do with two of her adult children because of her unreasonable and horrible behaviour, and little to do with a third child. Only one tolerates her ‘because she has no one else.’
As you see, there is a long and complicated history. Sorry to bore you with it, but I think the final straw has broken the camel’s back. I cannot tolerate her abusive behaviour any longer, she has simply added to my grief. She doesn’t really care about mum, just about the money. She was equally terribly behaved when dad died, again leaving everything to myself and my husband. I have to accept she’s a disturbed and unpleasant person.
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