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Bereavement

Does it get easier?

(162 Posts)
Palmtree Sun 09-Apr-23 19:14:00

I dont have any advice unfortunately. I just hope you can get through these Easter holidays which must make you feel incredibly lonely remembering happier times. Thinking of you and hope you can try some bereavement counselling xx

Joane123 Sun 09-Apr-23 18:57:10

flowers to you all xx

Iam64 Sun 09-Apr-23 18:51:50

Thanks maddyone. I have RA, and many health problems linked to it. I honestly never thought fir one moment that my fit, healthy, happy husband would die before me. Life eh ?

maddyone Sun 09-Apr-23 13:02:31

I just want to say I’m thinking of you all today. I haven’t lost my husband yet, but one of us will lose the other at some point. We know it will happen when we say our vows, but it doesn’t make it any easier. I have no advice, how could I have, but just thinking if you all.

SueDonim Sun 09-Apr-23 12:44:50

I have no advice but just want to say you’re in my thoughts, Su22. flowers

DamaskRose Sun 09-Apr-23 12:43:18

flowers for Su22 and Iam64. I’m so sorry for all those feeling this way. I find I miss my mother more as time goes by but the pain is not so great so I hope for the same for all of you too.

Pavane Sun 09-Apr-23 12:35:18

I don’t think it gets easier or that our feeling of loss is lessened. I think we develop greater coping skills that help us get thru. Thanks for sharing. Know that you are not alone. Sending you loving, warm thoughts and hugs . Be good to yourself.💐🌈

Iam64 Sun 09-Apr-23 12:33:07

Su22, my husband died 6 months ago. I miss him with every fibre of my body, I’m bereft, sad and sometimes bowled over by a tsunami of grief.
I have dogs so I’m out every day, even if I just want to hide away.
I’ve turned down a number of opportunities to meet friends because I don’t want to find myself weeping.
I’m trying to be more sociable. Could you contact people?

tanith Sun 09-Apr-23 12:20:09

I know it’s only a simple thing but I found going for a regular walk got me out of the house and now I often chat with the dog walkers who live near and walk in the park. It’s not easy living alone but the loss does diminish slowly it’s 4 yrs since my husband died I miss him everyday but it’s less painful as when I walk I remember a special holiday or trip we took.
flowers

ronib Sun 09-Apr-23 11:52:10

Cruse bereavement services may be a way forward for you. Take care.

Harris27 Sun 09-Apr-23 11:45:01

I’ve just read this and can’t give you any advice. However all I can do is to tell you to keep going you’re still going through the grieving process. I’m sending you hugs and kind thoughts think it’s this time of year you will feel it even more.

Su22 Sun 09-Apr-23 11:40:15

It is 18 months since my husband died, people tell me it gets easier, but it's no easier in fact it is getting harder and harder. Lots of people turned up to his funeral which was lovely to see but where are they now I can count on one hand the people that have kept in touch. It's four days since I have spoken to anyone I realise it is Easter and people have their own things to do but life is pretty lonely, just need someone to tell me it will get easier and life does go on.