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Sense or vision of my late dad?

(31 Posts)
Poppyred Mon 25-Sept-23 06:15:03

Yes, many times…..people don’t like to admit to it. It’s a great comfort to me.

travelsafar Mon 25-Sept-23 05:45:45

25Avalon I had the same experience after my mum died. It was the day of mum's ashes being put in the plot with dad's. It was at the beginning of December and snowing. My sister was talking to me on the phone and we were both crying as so upset about mum's death in November and after the cremation this was the last thing we could do for our mum. All of a sudden I noticed a large bird , about the size of a blackbird in my garden it was pale brown with yellow feathers in the wing area. I had never seen a bird like it before and I'm sure it was sent to tell us mum was still with us. I saw the same bird a few weeks later when I had been upset about something at work. I was in the staff room alone on my break and it appeared on the bushes outside the window. I've never seen one again.

25Avalon Mon 25-Sept-23 04:23:38

Slightly different but after my ds died we were at mil's house and she was absolutely distraught. Suddenly there was a flash of colour and a certain bird who had never visited her garden before flew in. We were convinced it was a sign and ever since at certain times we see that bird. Others report seeing a butterfly - often where you wouldn't expect to see one. It's as of our loved ones are looking out for us. Whatever it is very comforting and I hope it helps your mum.

nanna8 Mon 25-Sept-23 00:19:12

I’ve experienced this kind of thing and I have no idea what it is . There is a lot we don’t know is all I can say.

crazyH Mon 25-Sept-23 00:06:21

Yes - I am sure my mother had ‘visited’ me at a very difficult time in my life. I was trying to sleep and just couldn’t. I then felt a gentle breeze on my face. I knew it was her. As a little girl, growing up in a hot country (no A/C in those days), my Mum used to ‘fan’ me to sleep with a paper fan. She had come to comfort me.

drbledu23 Sun 24-Sept-23 23:45:50

My dad died a couple of months back and my mum has been struggling to accept that he has gone and that she couldn't foresee it or do anything to prevent it. Lot of up and down days at present and she is constantly berating herself thinking 'I could have done this' or 'I shouldn't have said that' which is a normal part of the grieving process.

Funnily enough she told me that this afternoon she had been looking at a photo of her and my dad in their younger days, having a bit of a cry and asking him to give her some sign that he had forgiven her. She dozed off on the settee for an hour or so and says that when she woke up she had a vision of a man standing next to her by the settee just looking ahead at the window. When she turned her head slightly the vision vanished. Quite shook her up to say the least. She wasn't sure if it was my dad as the man seemed taller than she remembered him (although in his younger days he looked taller and was slimmer). Not even sure if she was still half sleep.

I know there are lots people who recount similar experiences but was wondering is=f anyone else on here has experienced such things and how they dealt with it?