Is it ok not to attend the funeral of a brother?

So sorry for your loss, I agree with the other posts it’s fine if your sister isn’t able to make the journey. Having attended my fair share of funerals and having been involved in arranging some, I’ve told my family I don’t want a funeral service, it’s a direct cremation for me please. The stress on the bereaved is too much and as I won’t know what’s happening what is the point in my opinion, funerals are a money making machine that I’d rather my family did something else with the money

Absolutely fine not to attend his funeral plus your sister is a good age. You can take an order of service home for her and perhaps take flowers and a card with her name on it any a message she’d like, on her behalf to put on the coffin or at the grave and take a photo to show her. That may make her feel better and give closure x

It’s completely upto the individual…Your Sister could light a candle in reflection /memories good and bad 🙂

That's perfectly fine I think

I think, given your sister's age and the long journey she would have to make, this is fine. You say your sister-in-law is lovely so it is unlikely she will be upset or offended, though presumably your sister would send flowers and perhaps write a letter of condolence, also expressing her regret at being unable to do the long journey.

I believe it is now acceptable to video funerals .perhaps this would be a solution for you & your family. Best wishes

tanith, just being 81 years old is a good reason to not attend - let alone that long journey. You are quite right that you can represent her. It seems to be the sensible thing to do.

Yes ok to not attend.
The live stream thing, that’s weird

Cateq, same here, I've paid for direct cremation, they can have a little get-together and scatter my ashes in anyone's garden - I really don't care!

Thank you I appreciate the support.