I have never experienced bereavement

You are fortunate, I found it much harder than I thought it would be.

It was for me too Theexwife when we lost a dear friend last year who had only been a part of our lives for 7 years.

I really don't understand how you cannot feel bereaved when family members or friends die regardless of their age.
As Theexwife has said you certainly are very fortunate indeed.

What do you mean by 'bereaved'? What did you expect to feel?

I have been absolutely distraught after various people in my life have died. My mother was like you though and just accepted that's how it is I suppose. We are all different.

I take it you mean that you have never felt grief?
I don't know how old you are, but you are extremely fortunate if that's the case.

Never known loss? (Friend, lover, pet) or felt sad because your life has changed?
I don’t think I envy you, grief is after all the price we pay for love as our wise late Queen once said.

Yes, the more family and friends you have of any age the more likely you are to experience grief and/or bereavement. It is the price you pay for loving people and my hope is that all those I have lost will be welcoming me in another place when my time comes.

Yongy do you mean you didn't feel sad or cry ? You felt no emotion! My parents where 80 and 90 when they died and I grieved for them both they where my parents and I loved them.
Like I grieved for all my relatives and dear friends that died. But they were between 53 -90.

But the bone crushing grief I felt and still feel 20 years on are for my husband who died 4 days after his 47th birthday. He had cancer 6 tumours. I had to tell my husband to stop fighting and we would be ok. My husband couldn't breath even on full oxygen . He died a few minutes later. And half of me died to. I haven't been whole since.

Your post is insulting to all of us who grieve for people we love.

Why you posted I don't know but I hope you apologise for starting this thread . I can only think you started this to hurt people deliberately and cruelly .

I think you must be bored and wanted to hurt people.

I don’t think it was insulting.
Everyone feels things differently. When my parents died I doubt anyone apart from those who were closest would have guessed. My way of coping was to carry on as normally as usual.

I wish the OP would come back and tell us what they meant. It is very difficult to formulate an answer when the terms are not properly defined.

I feel awful grief when loved ones die you must be very unfeeling if you don’t and I don’t think it’s anything to be proud of

It’s the only conclusion I can reach BlueBelle. It’s also odd that the OP talks of people dying of whom she was ‘fond’. A very strange thing to say.

Everyone feels loss in their own way - some people are far more emotional than others. I certainly can't see how the OP is in any way insulting to someone else.

I think this post is deliberately baiting people..

It’s certainly not pleasant. There must be few on this site who haven’t lost a beloved spouse, parent, even child.

Well good for you!

I feel so sorry for you that you have no empathy or love in your life. If you feel no love for others then you have obviously had a loveless life, perhaps you have had a bad childhood which has left you like this.

It’s not much of a life if you live and care only for yourself.

I wouldn’t wish grief on anyone but, as said elsewhere, it is the cost of loving and living. To have the highs you must have the lows too.

MissInterpreted

Everyone feels loss in their own way - some people are far more emotional than others. I certainly can't see how the OP is in any way insulting to someone else.

Of course it's not insulting. Everyone is different. However, I feel no need to announce my differences by starting a tread. IMO, typically people don't begin threads without purpose.

Norah

MissInterpreted

Everyone feels loss in their own way - some people are far more emotional than others. I certainly can't see how the OP is in any way insulting to someone else.

Of course it's not insulting. Everyone is different. However, I feel no need to announce my differences by starting a tread. IMO, typically people don't begin threads without purpose.

No, I know what you mean. I think they are deliberately trying to provoke a reaction with such an emotive topic.

Harsh words from some.
I also have lost my elderly relatives and only felt sadness.
2 years ago I lost my best friend of 55 years and felt what grief was for the first time.
I still grieve.

In some circumstances it can be a relief when someone dies. I was relieved when my husband died, although he was very young. He had cancer and was in great distress. I felt relief when my mother died, too. She was five days off her 90th birthday, had had a stroke which deprived her of sensible speech, and her quality of life was nil. She was very unhappy. My father was 94, and dying at 94 isn’t really a tragedy.

None of this meant I didn’t grieve for them, but it would have been very selfish to have wanted them to live.

I’ve never experienced the death of a young, healthy person - in an accident, say. Now that would be grief on another level.

I don’t think this question was insulting to anyone.

I have experienced several relatives deterioration, illness and death over the past couple of decades. I used to tend to bury my feelings about this and now I feel things more acutely.

I think I grieved for my mum before she died. I had already lost my reliable supportive mum. I struggled with her behaviour towards the end. I grieved the lost years after she had gone.
I have helped to ‘nurse’ relatives through various deaths. For me the grief has taken various forms.

OP, if you are struggling to connect with your grief regarding someone, maybe you need to try grief counselling?

OP HAS experienced bereavement, just hasn't experienced grief. Well I have experienced deaths of many relatives including a brother in his 20s, a nephew in his teens, a sister-in-law at 49, my parents (mother was 59, in-laws (mil was 52) as well as many, many relatives and friends. The grief with the relatives was incalculable.

If there is a relative or friend you love and see every day it is going to be a different bereavement compared to an elelderly person that is seen for a couple of hours once a month.