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Death of 12 day old Grandson

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Mandy45 Thu 26-Sept-24 11:47:46

Hi my daughter gave birth to my grandson after 23 weeks 4 days gestation, he survived for 12 days in the NICU.
My daughter has a supportive partner.
It is now a week since the baby died.
My daughter won't allow us to call to see her, refuses to discuss anything about a funeral,although I do know a funeral director has been.
She is so angry, and I'm at a loss as to how to help her. I'm grieving for my grandson and hurting for my daughter, any advice would be appreciated as how to help my daughter and myself.

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DaisyDaisyDo Fri 27-Sept-24 18:34:03

I am so deeply sorry for your loss

At this time your daughter is dealing with her grief in the way that is right for her. Please allow yourself this time for your own grief and get the support you need. I know it must be hard and you must be so desperate to see her.

I like the ideas for other ways you can show support. Sending a meal or some soothing pamper products would be a good way to show your love and support flowers

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Tenko Fri 27-Sept-24 18:56:07

Oh Mandy I’m so sorry to hear your sad news . Your Dd and sil are dealing with their grief in their way . Be there for them if needed .
The SANDS charity can be a great support .
My sister had a stillborn baby boy about 30 years ago . Like your daughter she couldn’t deal with seeing family , even my mother or myself.
I sent her a card saying I was there for her when she was ready . She and her dh had a private funeral for their baby and we all respected their decision.
She contacted SANDS and found them a great help .

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