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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Jaxjacky Sun 22-Feb-26 18:15:22

As always, my love 🥀 xx

Yiayia4 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:20:17

So very sorry FGT.He fought so hard and you are such a brave strong lady.Take comfort in your little family and so many happy memories.
Love always❤️

NoodleNut Sun 22-Feb-26 18:22:41

So sorry to read this, my thoughts are with you.

Grandmabatty Sun 22-Feb-26 18:23:01

I'm so sorry to hear that your Dear Man has died. He was a star and I wish I had known him in real life. Take comfort that you were with him to the end. Condolences to you all.

Casdon Sun 22-Feb-26 18:23:15

So sorry to hear your sad news FGT2, my deepest sympathy to you.

Grannydaisy1 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:23:48

Oh fgt2 I am really sorry. I haven't got the words to say but you have been in my thoughts. Now he is at peace and pain free. Take care

Bellasnana Sun 22-Feb-26 18:25:31

Such sad news.😞
As I said when my own DH died, his pain is over but yours is just beginning.
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family, and a big hug from me to you. Rest in peace Himself, you fought so bravely.💔

Anniebach Sun 22-Feb-26 18:26:18

So sorry, my deepest sympathy to you

crazyH Sun 22-Feb-26 18:27:32

So sorry FGT flowers

Marg75 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:28:17

So very sorry to hear your sad news about Himself, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this very sad time. With love x

gillgran Sun 22-Feb-26 18:29:51

Heartfelt condolences dear FGT. x flowersx

Magenta8 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:31:30

No words just a big (((((hug))))) from me.thanks

keepcalmandcavachon Sun 22-Feb-26 18:35:53

So sorry FGT, sending you my love flowers x

Ziplok Sun 22-Feb-26 18:36:19

I’ve only just seen your post, FGT and send you my deepest condolences 💐.

Treebee Sun 22-Feb-26 18:37:15

My condolences Fried Green Tomatoes 2

wendyann23 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:38:56

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

JaneJudge Sun 22-Feb-26 18:39:08

I’m so sorry FGT. Love to you and your family flowers

baubles Sun 22-Feb-26 18:43:35

FGT I’m so very sorry for your great loss. My sincere condolences to you and your little family. flowers

Ladyleftfieldlover Sun 22-Feb-26 18:44:01

I am so sorry to hear this news FGT. I am thinking of you and your family at this dreadful and sad time.

Thorntrees Sun 22-Feb-26 18:46:51

There are no words,just sending loving thoughts and deep synmpathy to you and your family.
Will keep you all in my prayers.

Bellanonna Sun 22-Feb-26 18:47:33

Sad news, indeed, FGT. Thankfully Himself is now at rest.

25Avalon Sun 22-Feb-26 18:50:53

Deepest sympathy at this sad time. May the angels watch over you.

Whitewavemark2 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:54:37

With heartfelt sympathy.

Charleygirl5 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:56:55

Your words brought tears to my eyes, so sorry.

Hiraeth Sun 22-Feb-26 19:00:54

Dear FGT his wings were ready but your heart was not .
With time the memories of the wonderful years you had together will be stronger than remembering the suffering your very brave „himself „ went through .
You too have been through so much this last 10 months . Grief is hard .
Thinking of you .