Many of you will know the saga of my poor 93 year old Dad.
Things are not really working out with his care at home - he is simply to ill to be dealt with at home. There are problems with the carers and the package is so huge that the cost is nearly £1900 per week. It is not sustainable either financially or practically.
He may get continuing health care funding, but this does not solve the whole problem. We have to have two care agencies involved for both live-in and waking night care. There is friction between them and the carers are not really up to scratch. My sister, who lives locally to him, is spending hours dealing with problems - and I am up to my eyes in appeasing the carers and generally trying to monitor and supervise what is going on from a distance. It takes up a large chunk of each day.
The bottom line is that I do not think we will ever get together a care package that will properly meet his needs. We have found an excellent home (we know it is good because a previous family member was there) and need to try and broach this subject with him. I simply do not know where to start. I just keep thinking how I would feel if someone said that to me and wanted to tear me away from my beloved home.
Anyone had to face this challenge? It is filling my every waking moment with worry. It is so cruel to see him in this condition.
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