Hello Mishap, sounds as if you are beginning to see the light at end of tunnel. I think its so often our own feelings about moving from our home that colour how we think they will feel. We build it up in our minds about how upset they are, when in many many cases they are almost relieved.
In our case, once he had gone for a respite visit, seen how lovely everyone was, he really began to appreciate how much better the care was going to be. We reiterated that WE were not up to the task of the day to day care but would still visit and chat everyday. He actually enjoyed the different set up, the menus at meal times, the ladies fluttering around him (men are always out numbered). He very quickley had 'his' corner, a big winged chair surrounded by elegant bookcases, it made him feel as if back at the University. All the best, am sure things will sort themselves out.