I am sooooo sorry.
When my first husband died in 1992 he hadn't yet reached his 60th birthday, but he'd had 20 years of cardiovascular problems and in the last few years, mini-strokes. This would inevitably have led to the ischaemic form of dementia - with every stroke a little bit more brain tissue is lost.
People said to me 'Oh what a pity he died so young'. I could not wish him back knowing he would have developed dementia. In a way that helped with the grieving.
Yes, it's well-documented that mortally-wounded soldiers on battlefields do call for their mothers.
Should women have equal pay and opportunities?
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