So sorry you are going through this ...as others have said, I is sadly the nearest and dearest the frustration and anger is taken out on. My husband had Parkinson's, dementia and cancer of the oesophagus ...he had always been so capable working all day on the house and garden ..planning the next project that even when he was ill he was trying to paint the shed …..I was unable to stop him without being abused and having all sorts of things thrown at me (objects, as well as abuse !) He refused any help at all ...pushed me and the Nurse away, fell so many times when I had to call the ambulance as I could not lift him, refused to wear the pull up pants and tried to climb out of the hospital bed we had at home, that for the last three months I had no choice, with no help, but to find a care home for him and tell him I was looking for a more suitable place we could live with no garden etc (the psychologist advised I keep up this), it was hard to visit him every day and when he was still able to speak, to hear him say Get me out of here,,,,,and the worst was when he as ked for a lawyer so he could sue me for taking his money (I didn't...he never had any, preferring to spend it all) the money for the care home came from an inheritance of mine which was sad but fortunate or I could not have paid for it ! I really tried to keep him at home and despite his anger and aggression, I tried to say to myself it is the illness,,,although he had always been fairly self centred we had only been married for 15 years (he was a widower) and out of those, around 5 were good and many times I had saved up to leave, and then stayed. In the end I was pleased I did and feel that although I did everything I could for him he . would never have been happy He died in May this year and now at last he is out of his misery. If you find it too hard to look after him at home, NEVER feel guilty if you have to find some outside respite ...and think what he would do for you if it were the other way round, When I had cancer which returned twice husband told me to stop making things up and there was nothing wrong with me (no, only two years of chemo and two major ops ! ha ha) and that was before the illness he had ! Bon courage x