That's pretty much the gist of it - ie he's been turned into one a few months back, rather than choosing to become one. He is not a happy bunny.
He's just been round again for "tea and sympathy" about it.
Any start-up carer thoughts for him? He's already studied carehomes and been horrified by the cost of them.
It's both his parents that need a carer. Mother is the one with the worst health. Latest issue was Social Services were pushing at him to do it - cue for me telling him the message I'd been told about "They do do that pushing etc" that I'd had delivered to me many years back just-in-case by someone who used to work for them.
So he managed to start Social Services up talking about a carer coming in to feed his mother breakfast/get her ready for the day to start with and came up against mothers timetable and the carers timetable having a mismatch at the start. He then pointed out his father also needed a carer and requested if they could include at least feeding his father breakfast whilst they were there dealing with his mother - they refused. Both parents sound rather stubborn at that.
Right now - he feels rather like he's run up against a dead-end wall "blocking the road". Carers are needed - he's still working age group (in his 50's) and needs to get back to work - as he applied for/got carers allowance...but it's not enough to live on (even though his own house is clear of mortgage).
Any suitable carers forums/thoughts for him - as he needs to get his own life and his normal income back again and is getting really rundown (courtesy of the fact he's temporarily living in their home with them and mother disturbs his sleep regularly a couple of times with this and he's feeling shattered).
He can't keep doing this financially. He can't keep doing this physically. Right at the moment though and Social Services do seem to be expecting that he will - even though he's fighting back and trying to get their help for them and get his life back.
1. Any thoughts?
2. Any carers forums or something where he can swop notes with others in this position? He is not a happy bunny at being in this position at all - but, on the other hand, does want his parents cared for by someone.
I've already learnt some time back that the Welsh are much more family-oriented than I'm used to people being until I moved here - and hence can see he wants them being looked after properly - but it's taking a toll on him personally. He needs to go back to work and to resume adding to a work pension.
