Being a new widow

I was kindly given websites of groups in Alnwick Nothumberland where I live but after repeated e-mails I have had no answer it seems this area has no widows groups so its back to a lonely quiet house

blackbird Don't settle for loneliness, make a diference now before the winter sets in and it is harder to get out and about. You are not just a widow, you are an individual with a life and personality of your own.

I have found a list of things on in your area
www.isoshousing.co.uk/.../GoldenGuide5theditionsecured%20(2).pdf

Choose two things and go and join. Do them for a few weeks, even if they do not seem perfect at first. Give them a chance. After a while you may well find that one of them (or the people you meet there) is more interesting than you thought, and you can concentrate on that. Of course you may find both of them are worth doing once you have made the effort to go to them!

What you must NOT do is to sit on your own every day thinking of how sad you are. While you will get sympathy and support from many people on Gransnet, they cannot remake your life for you, neither can your family. You are the only one who can do that, a little at a time. Every victory will make you stronger and more able to tackle the next step, but you will not start to win until you make that first move.

Sorry, I should have made that link active, blackbird

Here is what it says about the booklet on the Northumberland web site:-

" Northumberland Golden Guide for older people www.isoshousing.co.uk/Isos%20Housing%20Limited/GoldenGuide5theditionsecured%20(2).pdf (Opens in a new window). The free booklet was produced in partnership with Age UK Northumberland, Northumberland County Council, Northumberland Care Trust and Milecastle Housing. It has tips, advice and information on money, health and care, leisure and transport, together with useful local contacts. For your free copy of the guide, please contact John Temple, Resident Involvement Officer, on 0300 300 1505 or [email protected] "

So you should be able to either read it on your computer by clicking on the blue link, phone for it, or email for it. It may also be in your public library.

thank you elegran for getting the information for me about to e-mail them

I hope it helps.

There are so many kind thoughts and much sensible advice on here. This is just how 'community' works at its best; even a 'virtual' one! I think you're all smashing.

Totally agree * ga* a lovely warm community...with lovely friends whenever you drop in....my love to you all

So true littlenellie and ga. I have felt a metaphoric communal hug of compassion, help and hope around me over the past few months - something I didn't expect to need when I first joined GN last year, but it was there for me when I needed it.

I love you lot...

And me

Come on group {{{hug}}}}

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((((hugs)))) Ah! That's betta...

i was out when you were doing the group hug, but count me in.

Today I have been a widow for a whole two years. So not a new widow. But it often feels pretty new. Not unhappy with my now life. Just missing Mr. Flower.

flowerfriend ((((hugs))))

flower {{{hug}}}

I still miss mine 9 1/2years! {{{hug}}}

jeni {{{hug}}}

Thanks! It does get easier though!

mr f died two years plus ago , my home is so empty now, i have been struggling with the thought of moving but dont know whether to. i cant m goaintain this large house even with help from my son and daughter, i,m reluctant and proud to ask for help, and i dont want my family to know how sad , lonely and still grieving i am. my home is full of memories good and not so good. have other members any advice on this problem?

matson I have not experienced this, ut there are lots of grans on here who will help you, but I would say dont be too proud to ask your family for help! Sending you a {{{hug}}}

thanks glassortwo, never to proud to accept a hug x

Me neither matson

matson no advice to offer, but ((hugs))