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So who am I then?

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PRINTMISS Sat 29-Sept-12 11:08:07

I was at a small meeting recently, only a handful of people sitting in a circle, and most of us knew each other already, but as appears to be the 'norm' these, days we were asked to introduce and say a little about ourselves. I was there with the other half, and well known to all except one of the people there, so when it came to my turn, I just said I am 'D' and I am 'T's wife (he was sitting next to me). This brought a quite shocked response from one of the leaders of the group - she thought 'I was more than that'. What more would I want to be at my age - yes I am the older generation, and to me being a wife and mother was what life was all about. I did have several jobs, ran two or three quite successful clubs, and joined the odd organisation, generally entering into life in many ways, but I have always been a wife and mother, so why should I want to be 'more than that'? someone is going to say I should 'get a life', but I have one, and enjoyed it, I think it is called contentment.

Lilygran Fri 05-Oct-12 10:35:20

Agree, absent

kittylester Fri 05-Oct-12 14:40:00

Me too absent. I said on another thread that I think couples can grow together or apart. There are times when it can be difficult too but, basically, it has to be worth the effort. DH and I have been lucky and I am more than happy to be known as his wife or someone's mother, daughter, sister, friend. It doesn't demean me to be an integral part of a whole!

PRINTMISS Fri 05-Oct-12 15:29:34

I started this thread, and have enjoyed reading all the comments, with the occasional 'off-tracking'. On the whole, and on reflection, I rather feel that the comment made to me was in the form of a compliment, in as much as the person making it knew that I was more than 'T's wife, but at the time I did feel rather hurt, which is not like me at all, I have the hide of a rhinoceros(?) in most circumstances. I am however, me, and I am 'T's wife and we are a fortunate couple who enjoy each others company, doing things together, so perhaps I should not have taken offence. This was a good place to let off steam though!

petra Fri 05-Oct-12 19:46:31

I love "reinventing" myself. The best one i did was a a very " dodgy" yacht club where a lot of booze and cigarettes changed hands.
My OH and myself were at the bar one night when someone said " I haven't seen you here before, what do you do. I told him I was a customs inspector.
His face literally drained of colour. The best part was that my OH didn't know that I was going to say it.

Ella46 Sat 06-Oct-12 15:39:30

I like your style petra smile