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absentgrana Sun 14-Oct-12 08:56:52

To avoid any accusation of bullying, please follow these guidelines closely:

• Begin every post with IMHO to indicate that you are not implying that your opinion has any validity and, indeed, you are not even sure that you have the right to have an opinion, let alone express it.

• Agree with all previous posts, especially if they contradict each other.

• Do not agree with the same person on more than two threads in a single day as this is clearly ganging up and forming a clique to threaten and distress other posters.

• Never ignore a post as this not only indicates that you have nothing worthwhile to say in response but also, obviously, implies that you consider yourself to be superior to the poster.

• Never ask for clarification of a post, especially if it is particularly vague, equivocal, ill-informed or fatuous.

• Never clarify or attempt further to explain anything in a post you have made, particularly if it has been wildly misrepresented in a reply. In fact, agree that the misrepresentation is what you really meant to say in the first place and express gratitude to whoever pointed this out.

• Do not be offended or hurt by blatant insults crossed through or thinly disguised as jokes, as this reveals that you are not just a bully, but humourless as well.

• Never point out factual inaccuracy, lack of logic or syllogism in a post as this deliberately undermines the validity of that post.

• When a poster tells you that she has received personal messages of support of her point of view, graciously accept defeat, apologise immediately and withdraw from the threat. Do not under any circumstances respond that you have also received personal messages of support as this is evidence of cliques and ganging up.

• In the unfortunate event of someone accusing you of bullying another poster, apologise profusely and publicly to both of them, ignoring any protestations from the poster named that she did not feel bullied. Do not post on that thread again and, ideally, do not post on any thread for at least a week as an act of contrition.

• When someone declares that enough has been said on any given topic, agree instantly and stop posting immediately.

annodomini Sun 14-Oct-12 15:05:08

But, Greatnan, you are pretty damn good at walking! And, besides, you are a great host and very good company. flowers

janeainsworth Sun 14-Oct-12 15:15:03

greatnan you reminded me of a T-shirt I used to wear when sailing (as crew) with Mr A in our youth.
It was emblazoned with the motto of the crews' union:
'It's hard to be humble when you know you're great'.
grin

jeni Sun 14-Oct-12 15:17:25

And did you mean people who sew or underground drains?
Just politely trying to clarify?confused

Greatnan Sun 14-Oct-12 15:23:28

Both are more useful than I am! (Except to Gatsby and Pudding - they love me!) Anno - you can come again!

jeni Sun 14-Oct-12 15:29:06

What's up with you? You're not your usual robust self?

annodomini Sun 14-Oct-12 15:29:35

Will do, Greatnan. Is Pudding a cat?

Granny23 Sun 14-Oct-12 15:38:21

Greatnan you may not be an anstronomist but you are a star.

Greatnan Sun 14-Oct-12 15:40:13

Thanks very much! Yes, Pudding is Juragran's cat, who sleeps on the pillow next to me!
I have had a migraine, and though it is gone now it always leaves me a bit shattered the next day.

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 15:50:27

Lilygran There is not a test. Grades will be awarded on classwork - on each and every post submitted. Type on one side of the screen only, double spaced to leave room for critical comments.

Final assessment will be issued after the poster has stormed off Gransnet in a huff and will take the form of a round robin PM to be added to and signed by every member. Appeals to be addressed to GNHQ in triplicate, with a note from GP (or chiropractor in the case of out-of-joint nose)

Granny23 Sun 14-Oct-12 15:55:34

What if it is a chronic case of 'pain in the neck' or 'pain in the butt'?

JessM Sun 14-Oct-12 15:57:26

Brilliant story about the school motto, thank you.
We will forgive the gratuitous use of Latin, just this once, I think.

annodomini Sun 14-Oct-12 15:59:04

Elegran grin wink

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 16:00:31

These patients would probably come under the chirpractor, greatnan (depending of course on the chiropractor's ability, experience and personal charm)

POGS Sun 14-Oct-12 16:16:35

Elegran.

I enjoyed your post 13.07. very much. I had thought to post something very similar but I'm afraid I would have been a little less subtle with my wording.

I also thought you spoke soundly on the thread that has, let's face it, generated this one, Do you ever feel intimidated?

To see ourselves as others see us!! confused

jeni Sun 14-Oct-12 16:29:32

I get to the point where I daren't post in case it upsets someone! I do feel a little inhibited on GN, which those of you who have met me, is not me!

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 16:30:35

I don't suppose any of it will make a blind bit of difference - some people seem to wear rose-coloured specs when a mirror is held up in front of them , so just can't see themselves as they appear to others!That is on both ends of the spectrum, and one is as bad as the other, in different ways.

Ah well, that is true in life as well as on the forum.

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 16:38:58

To answer your question, POGS, I can't say I have felt intimidated, but that could be because I take the temperature of a thread before posting a reponse, and I only post if I have something which will add something to the sum of human knowledge (as displayed by what has already been said)

Also I am a bit slow at typing, and I like to try to be sure that I have put it how I meant it, so by the time I have composed a suitable reply, I wonder whether the talk has moved on and often take a copy of what I wanted to say and look back, then paste it back in to send. Very often my contribution is irrelevant by then so it is better ditched.

It is very easy to dash off an instant reponse and then regret it.

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 17:03:26

Thinks (quietly) Am I a closet wimp?

soop Sun 14-Oct-12 17:05:52

Elegran you are priceless. Thanks for a fun-day. flowers

soop Sun 14-Oct-12 17:21:01

Have just heard that our dear neighbour's faithful dog [rescued from a cruel life 17 years ago] died this morning. She was a gentle and beautiful golden labrador. Everywhere our friend went, Amber went too. I'm feeling sad. I'm therefore going to say farewell to you all. Until tomorrow. moon xx

absentgrana Sun 14-Oct-12 17:24:52

Soop Sad. Our animals and animal friends are so much part of our lives. 17 is a good age and rescued from a bad life to a good life is a splendid thing.

Grannylin Sun 14-Oct-12 17:29:27

And golden Labradors are adorable soop flowers

Greatnan Sun 14-Oct-12 17:36:59

Wow, Elegran, I wish I had your self-confidence. I am sure most of my posts add nothing at all to the sum of human knowledge (except my jokes, of course!)

Elegran Sun 14-Oct-12 17:46:54

Wish I'd yours, greatnan I would post a lot more.

Ana Sun 14-Oct-12 18:07:14

Same here!