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vampirequeen Fri 30-Nov-12 15:55:13

As most of you know I have agoraphobia and can only leave the house if I have someone with me who I trust. My husband works very long hours so sometimes I can be in the house for days. Last night at around 8pm my husband suggested we went for a walk around the block. I needed to stretch my legs and get some exercise but instead of going around the block we went to the local Methodist church hall. He had spoken to the minister, explained my condition and asked if it was possible to use the hall to practise dancing...something I really enjoy. He also explained that we had very little money. The minister had said that we could have the small hall for £5. So that's where we went. He'd brought the ipod with him and we danced for an hour. My husband is a competition dancer and I'm a beginner so it turned into a lesson but was brilliant because now I'm far more confident.

Later he went to bed whilst I was in the bathroom and when I went to join him a few minutes later he'd been laying on my side of the bed to warm it for me.

See I am spoilt lol

kittylester Fri 30-Nov-12 15:58:31

Lovely man vampirequeen and you must be quite nice too or he would be so thoughtful smile

My husband has gone Christmas shopping today so I hope he is in the mood to spoil me! grin

Butty Fri 30-Nov-12 16:03:28

vq - That was so good to read. smile

MiceElf Fri 30-Nov-12 16:03:54

What a lovely man! And the minister wasn't half bad either.

So glad you had such an affirming experience, I had a very dear aunt who suffered from agoraphobia and it was so hard for her. Her youngest son was born with Downs Syndrome in 1947 and I think the stress and battles she had to fight just totally exhausted her. But when P was in his 20s he was in a 'show' and auntie, as she said 'put the A in her pocket and went to see him. It was such a moving experience for all of us.

Ana Fri 30-Nov-12 16:07:41

What a lovely, thoughtful man you have, vampirequeen. smile

Anne58 Fri 30-Nov-12 16:09:12

See now, VQ that just shows how your relationship works, caring for each other, so tell your "friend" who's comments inspired your "Am I A Drudge" thread to either:
A) Go and take a running jump, or:
B) To look at her own realtionship and see if it comes anywhere close!

Of course there is an alternative C) but I'm far too polite to include it! grin

Ella46 Fri 30-Nov-12 16:16:16

VQ You are a lucky lady and he is a very lucky man smile

artygran Fri 30-Nov-12 16:19:13

Gosh, VQ, I wish I had a hubby who could dance. I love my old man, but he has no sense of rhythm whatsoever. He has other redeeming features though!

janeainsworth Fri 30-Nov-12 16:27:49

vq how lovely, I'm envious, I love dancing too but my DH will only go to please me.... It must be wonderful dancing with someone who really enjoys it and is a good dancer too smile

glassortwo Fri 30-Nov-12 16:29:26

vampire awww .......well that proves to your Friend that he appreciates you very much and that you both think the world of each other. sunshine

Nonu Fri 30-Nov-12 16:48:54

Lovely story Vamphire , we are blessed to have thoughtful dh "s aren"t we ? x

Greatnan Fri 30-Nov-12 16:53:08

What a heart-warming post, VQ.

Ariadne Fri 30-Nov-12 17:11:03

That is SO good to hear, VQ! Lovely man; lovely you.x

annodomini Fri 30-Nov-12 17:18:47

What a wonderfully caring, romantic man. You deserve each other, VQ.

jO5 Fri 30-Nov-12 17:21:07

Oh that's so lovely.

Agoraphobia is horrible. I had it after the birth of my first child. Thank God I'm rid of it now. flowers

Mishap Fri 30-Nov-12 17:36:05

phoenix is quite right - that jumped-up young lady who thinks you are a drudge knows nowt! Sounds as though you have a good'un there - you spoil him in return all you like - drudge indeed!!

Greatnan Fri 30-Nov-12 17:37:17

My lovely employer once hired a village hall for me to roller skate.

vampirequeen Fri 30-Nov-12 17:50:26

That was so nice greatnan.

It's things like this that keep us going and make us feel valued.

My OH really does spoil me and I love it. After 33 years with a man who treated me badly it's all so new and wonderful.

My OH is an amazing dancer. He does ballroom, latin and rock and roll. I plod my way through ballroom but really enjoy it. When I'm dancing I seem to forget everything that's usually messing up my head and just enjoy myself. The people at the local 1940s dances are beginning to be aware of my problem and make sure we have seats near the door so I don't feel trapped etc. People can be so kind.

Marelli Fri 30-Nov-12 17:53:43

What a fine man, vampirequeen. I have a picture in my mind of you dancing to the music....and it's a lovely picture. smile

Grannyknot Fri 30-Nov-12 17:53:44

vpq A dancer, who is kind and romantic! What more could a woman ask for in a man ... [heart]

whenim64 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:01:36

What a delightful thing to arrange for you vpq. You've got a lovely man there! flowers

Faye Fri 30-Nov-12 18:44:13

He sounds lovely vq I wish there were more like him. flowers

absentgrana Fri 30-Nov-12 19:24:55

vampirequeen What fun and how cherished you must feel – and, indeed, are. I bet you don't plod but float on air when you are dancing together. The sooner you do it again, the better.

Ella46 Fri 30-Nov-12 20:05:56

Dancers always have such a sense of rhythm too wink

Smoluski Fri 30-Nov-12 20:37:49

envy wow what a lovely man ,for a lovely ladyxxxxxx